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writes: Someone please help I'm attracted (to the point of wanting to have a serious relationship) to my highschool teacher, I not entirely sure what to do.He is like 30years old and i'm 15 Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2007): Move to Kansas!
Just kidding. a little not funny joke...
lots of student-teacher relationships there.
I dont know what to do. sorry
Those things can be frustrating and hard and confusing...
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2007): If you just let him know of your feelings, after that you could stay in contact with him if you knew his email or phone number. (phone number would be a little creepier, but easier to find). All the teachers at my school have a hotmail email address. I don't know about your school, but here when the teacher gets up to make copies of a paper or talk with someone outside the classroom someone could get up and look at their computer screen. If they are on their email site you could look for their email address before they return to the classroom. If you aren't in any of his classes or your just nervous, get someone else to do it. Some will do it for free, and some will do it for a price. And when you're 18 and he's not in a relationship with anyone else You could find a chance to talk with him and maybe start something. (If you are 100% positive he is the one you love and want to live with). That's basically what I'm doing with my teacher. I just need her email and I'll be happy. I know a lot more about her. (...Don't ask...) I also found out the teacher I love isn't 27, she's 34. 20 years older than me. I still don't care about the ages.
Thats all the advice I know I can give.
Hope you can do it. (Hope I can too....)
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reader, penta  +, writes (25 April 2007):
 Do NOT act on this crush! You will ruin this man's career, and possibly get him thrown in jail. You can't possibly want to do that to him. Enjoy the feelings but keep them to yourself, at least until you're out of school and an adult.
anonymous, this goes for you too. You have the power to destroy the person you say you love. That's NOT love. Do not act on your feelings!
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reader, Keria  +, writes (25 April 2007):
Dear, wait until you are an adult. It's common to have crushes on teachers... but if you persue it, you can only get yourself and him into very big trouble! He probably already knows there are girls in the class who have crushes on him. If he's like most honest male teachers, I'm sure he has a difficult enough time as it is teaching a class of developing teenage girls. Leave him be though... or you are just looking for trouble. He has the rest of his career ahead of him, and doesn't need added temptation to destroy that.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (25 April 2007):
 ChiRaven is totally correct and the Mr. Anonymous is totally wrong. Do not say anything to your teacher. This is a school-girl crush and everyone goes through one at least once in their lives.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2007): I share your pain. I have the same problem. except I'm 14 and the teacher I want a relationship with I think is 27. First off, Is he single? If not It could be a problem. Another thing to do is to let him know of your feelings. I know that step can be really hard. Just saying you're the affectionate student. But not one for love, One for True love and a relationship to share you lives with each other. I need to do the same, but I have 37 days from tomorrow to build up the courage and find the right time and place to tell her. Or in your case, Him. For me it was just a thought thinking "she's a beautiful person, But it turned into How I would love a relationship. So just let him know so you have that off your chest, and over time or right then if you get the chance tell him that in your future you want a relationship. You want him to be the person to spend your life with.
Though the first thing you said was a little bit strange, but I understand. You want experience so you know how to do it if you could ever get a chance with him. How long do you have to build up the courage? Like before, I only have 37 days. And I never get a chance to tell her because she's always around other teachers or students. And having them listen to your conversation could be uncomfortable for you.
And like ChiRaven said "But for goodness sake keep it to yourself and do NOT try to take any actions based on it. At best you will look foolish". Yes you will look foolish and maybe fell uncomfortable, but if it's the last time you'd see him in a while you need to let him know.
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reader, ChiRaven +, writes (9 April 2007):
 Such thoughts and attractions are not all that uncommon.
But be aware that nothing can come of this, at least for the next three years or more. As a teacher, he has a professional obligation not to get involved with you as long as you are a student. As an adult, he has a legal obligation not to get involved with you as long as you are under age, which usually means 18.
It's a nice fantasy. Enjoy the dream. But for goodness sake keep it to yourself and do NOT try to take any actions based on it. At best you will look foolish. At worst you could cost him his job, his professional reputation, and maybe even get him into serious legal trouble. If you actually CARE for this man at all as a person, if he's anything more than just a hunk of meat to you, have enough respect for him and for yourself to understand that in reality right now the gulf between you is just too big to be bridged.
If you are in any way serious about this attraction, just keep it in your heart. If it's real, it will stay there until you are a woman in every sense of the word. Once you are through high school and established in college or in a career, there is always the possibility that you might want to re-introduce yourself to this man AS AN ADULT and explore the possibility of having an adult relationship with him. That will be the time to think of him as a potential partner.
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