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writes: Hi, I'm 15 Years Old and Never had a boyfriend All my friends have had boyfriends and had sex with them. They all say to me just go out with anyone, screw them and dump them. I don't want to do that but I do want a boyfriend. The problem is all the way through Primary school and secondary school people have said 'wanna go out with me' then a few seconds later NOT. I don't no whether to take boys seriously any more. Plus I'm scared of asking a boy out since I don't want to get shot down and I read that boys feel pressured. How do you know if a boy likes you? How do I get a boyfriend That I like but get him to ask? and how do you know if he likes you?
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reader, David Lewis  +, writes (10 August 2006):
 Well, I think your friends are pathetic for trying to get you to do that.
Don't physically go looking for a boyfriend, you will meet the right guy when you least expect it.
BTW, you should be proud you are a virgin, especially when you have friends like that. You have my utmost respect.
Well done to you.
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reader, hugs2muchgal  +, writes (10 August 2006):
 hey dont be pressured by your friends! they sounds like bad people if you were to ask me.
i'm 15 years old too, and im a teenage girl. its true i have a boyfriend, and i think its okay. but dont obsess over having one!
my ex friend obsessed over boys, she is now known as the "greasy haired whore"
would you really like that kind of rep?
on the whole asking a guy out thing. just do it casually. say something like
hey "joe schmo" would you like to hang out sometime with me?
by saying this and saying it calmly it can be seen as not desperate just curious.
if he says yes then score, but with saying sometime then if he were to say no, just assume he is not interested. and being rejected is nothing to fear. sometimes it even works out for the better. it may hurt, but it doesnt ruin everything. i asked a guy out and he said no, but then later (like a month) my current boyfriend told me he was interested and now im happy with him going on 5 months.
just go for a boy who you fancy either because they are sweet, or they are just great to hang out with. besides most guys arent serious when younger so whatever they did when younger should be ignored.
if you like a guy and want him to ask, leave hints, and if he doesnt take them (guys are dense) just do it yourself.
there is no way to know if a guy likes you since guys act differently. but if a guy pays you alot of special attention, or just seems to find excuses to talk to you, look at you, or touch you, he probabaly is at least a little bit interested.
well i hope some of this helped.
remember be yourself. dont go looking for a boyfriend just to have one. if you grow to like a guy and are ready to handle a relationship then go for it. don't have sex if you dont want to, if your friends are real friends they wont pressure you. but focus on school, clubs, sports, etc, and then you will find the boys with similar interests flocking to you.
good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2006): Yes yes yes... I know I've been getting harsher and harsher lately. Just that these 'problems' keep coming up repeatedly. Anyway, though my words are brutal, I hope you (the 15 year old girl) can see passed the satirical and the sarcasm and apply the reality of my thoughts to your situation. In short what Smeedle said here, "so chill and find the right bloke, take your time and make the first move" is right on the dot. Why rush into something just because everyone else is doing it?
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reader, smeedle +, writes (1 March 2006):
 My advice is to see which blokes you fancy, may be someone older or younger, who does your eyes keep wandering to and who makes you laugh.
If such a bloke is out there then tell him, ask him out, you may need to drop a note with your e-mail address of phone number on into his pocket or bag or get a friend to get his mobile number and text him, what ever it is you need to make a move on this guy.
Go seek one out and take it from there, it is not easy but you want a bloke so go get one.
Martini needs to do more work at work, although he made me smile and im doing this to you from work, his words are harsh but he does have a point about getting to wrapped up in the needing a boyfriend just because mates have one, and believe me most of them will not have had sex or been close to it, they know they can say anything and you cannot prove it, so chill and find the right bloke, take your time and make the first move.
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reader, Allean +, writes (1 March 2006):
Hey
its good that you're looking for more than just a piece of meat-i'd say take follow your hunches mostly. Speaking as a guy, i didnt become really interested in girls til high school, so you may be too idealistic when you're searching for a mature boy of your same age. But hell, you're 15, find a friend worth getting close to and make their day- just dont move too fast or else you might burn out. Trust me, the experience is worth it-
best of luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2006): [rolls over laughing while my boss eyes me suspiciously]Is that what they do in school these days? What the hell is the whole spiel in boy/girl, girl/girl, boy/boy nowadays? Is it really that important? Geez, like the latest trend in HS - relationships... So speechless, yet feel like scolding your friends like crazy! Wow... It's hilarious reading about 12 year olds trying to get boys and girls. Not that it's wrong. It's just so unfounded. How do you even relate yourself to love? [shakes head]
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reader, wookiee's girlfriend +, writes (28 February 2006):
 you're young,luv. you shiouldn'y feel pressured by your friends to gte a boyfriend just to have sex with them. that iasn't the right way to do it. it isn't clever to have sex just to keep up with your friends. wait until 1. you're old enough and 2. you feel ready to 'do it'. until then you'll feel like that, but remember not to rush yourself, because having sex when you're young doesn't make you mature. hope this helps!
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