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writes:hey, i'll try to keep this short so as not to take up your time.me and my boyfriend are quite intimate already, the only problem is, is that it's always my boyfriend doing everything, he's always pleasuring me (i say it's a problem!)But anyway, it's coming up to our anniversary now and it's also his birthday around the same time and i want to pleasure him for a change. any tips on what i can do for him? i've never given a blow job before and i'm rather nervous about the idea, could that just be because i've never done it before?thanks for the tips xxanon xx
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (11 May 2012):
 Okay, well here are some "tips."
After whatever usual foreplay the two of you enjoy, be sure that he is aroused and erect. Whether he is or not, continue by fondling and stroking his member until it is up for it. Then sweetly move down, kissing his chest, then belly and working toward the prize. Take it in your hand and gently stroke a few times first, then grasp firmly for a few more strokes from the bottom of the shaft toward the head.
If he is able to handle that without a premature ejaculation, then move to kiss the tip several times, followed by swirling your tongue around the crown. Kiss the tip one or two more times, then slowly and gently take him (the member) into your mouth. No need to be hasty at this point - just slowly move him back and forth into your mouth while giving a gentle sucking. Allow the tip to penetrate deep as possible without gagging, but deep penetration is not absolutely necessary - even a couple of inches is good enough.
There are various things you can do to add to the activity at this point, including continuing to stroke him with one or both hands - or using one hand to gently massage his scrotum (balls). Just continue stroking, sucking and moving him (his member) in and out (but not all the way out) of your mouth. Be aware that at any point, he may ejaculate. Hopefully, he will advise you that he is nearing release - though is may come suddenly.
Occasionally, if he has tremendous staying power, you can add a few more kisses to the tip, some licks up the shaft and more swirling of the tongue, all while continuing to stroke and massaging the scrotum. Unless very experienced, I think that few young men can endure more than several minutes without ejaculation, but those actions should bring about a fantastic orgasm.
When he does release, it is your choice what to do about it. Some girls stop the insertion and let it go wherever. Some take it orally but spit it out. Most (in my experience) take it and swallow the semen. The first two options can be somewhat anti-climatic to some guys, especially stopping prior to the release. As long as he is healthy and disease-free, his semen is harmless and some folks assert quite healthy. It is usually just about a teaspoon or so, although some of us emit a good bit more. It will likely be rather salty or bitter to the taste, as well as somewhat gooey. It's a good idea to handily have a favorite drink, such as some wine or fruit juice to wash it down.
In any case, you are unlikely to perform a bad blow job as long as you give it a good go and be very careful not to bite the shaft. That is the big no-no. Best wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2012): Hi,
First of all I want to say have you ever asked your boyfriend if he even likes (or would like) your mouth on his penis? I believe that communication is key for things like this. Some guys (me included) very much enjoy seeing their partner twisting and turning in pleasure because of them. But if you are fairly certain that he will enjoy it why don't you try spicing it up a bit. If you feel nervous because you might do it wrong try blindfolding him. It will increase his senses and make the experience even more pleasurable for him and if you feel like you are getting the hang of it whip off that blindfold and let him watch you! Another BJ tip: use lots of tongue, make sure you keep your teeth from scraping his junk and before you get down to it let him know that you will be listening if he wants you to go faster or slower or maybe even stop. I am sure that whatever you do he will enjoy it because it's being done by you and the more you do it the more you find out what he likes and before you know it you'll know EXACTLY what triggers him and you wont have to worry about being "bad at it" That's not possible!
Best of Luck,
Soulbrain :)
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reader, Dr.LanceMerryweather +, writes (10 May 2012):
 Under the circumstances, I think he may prefer an X-Box 360.
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