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writes:hello guys please i want every possible advice for me, i really need that,im in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend , it actually been a long time, the least i can say about her is that im crazy inlove with her, but i wanna forget her, take her out of my mind, she hurts me a lot , latelly we broke up for like a couple of weeks, and after that we got bk again , and she told me that while we werent together she kinda got with some1 and they kissed , but obviously she found out that she still loves me, crap like that, anyway i cant deal with this s**t anymore, i wanna forget her , i dont wanna love her anymore, i just cant stand this anymore, please tell me how i can do thatps : the thing is we never did anything together ,we know eashother for a while but then i had to leave for my studies and while iw as away we got together coz basically we had something for eashother even before i left but just didnt show that ,thanks in advance
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reader, nicky_SMexiii  +, writes (4 December 2010):
keep your self busy and try find someone new to take your mind of her.
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reader, Princess Aunty  +, writes (4 December 2010):
Remembering to not think of someone is nearly impossible. The idea itself is completely contradictory. However, there are times in our lives in which we often want to relieve a feeling or memory of someone else to ease our emotional stress. It is possible to do but also very difficult.Here are a few tips :-1. Stick with your decision! At this point you are comitting to do one thing only... leaving the possibility of a relationship behind. If you cannot fully commit to your decision you will continually be re-establishing emotional feelings (the cause of your thoughts). You must agree with this decision! If not, then you are not ready.2. Limit your interaction with this person. Although you have feelings for this person, giving yourself time and distance away from this person will cause you to have less interactions and less thoughts. Giving yourself at least one week of minimal interaction is necessary but this varies from person to person. This WILL be difficult.3. Wean yourself of reading her online profiles including facebook. Recent activities and photos will cause nothing but depression/jealousy because chances are you will see her enjoying herself (as usual)4. Find a replacement. Your thoughts must happen. You cannot simply take away thoughts and have a day without them filled with moments of you sitting in a deep daze. It is the brain's function to think and a thought can ONLY BE REPLACED! You need to find a new hobby to fill this new void. The best thing to do is to get out with some friends while obeying step 2. Friends also have full lives and when their interactions mix with yours, you find yourself listening and learning many new things and ideas5. Do something! Again, follow step 3. If you are in a room with only a chair you have nothing else to do but think. But if you're on the move you think about your actions, so do something.6. Relax and try to have fun. If you picked an activity that is highly stressful, chances are that you are going to return to your "safe place" and recall your thoughts. Always remind yourself that you are moving forward and becoming happier7. Realize there are less fortunate people in this world, who do not have food, water, clothing, shelter, freedom, etc. There is also plenty of people who are suffering natural disasters or war. You will stop and think that if you think you've had it hard forgetting about a girl you like, think about these people, you are luckier than they are right now.8. Give yourself plenty of time. It can be a very long period of time before you feel a change is taking place. Forgetting someone is never easy.9. Remember that you are not alone. Many people have experienced similar emotions and have pulled through.10. If you were in a relationship with this person, do what you need to clear any images or objects that will remind you of this person. Pack them in a box, put them under your bed, hide them in a shoe box in your closet, or put them in the trash. Think of something creative.11. Do not tell anyone WHO you like. Never give names. Talking to people about your crush increases your chances of your crush hearing about it. This definitely breaks step 1. However, talking about your difficulties is always good but you don't want anyone to figure out who you are talking about. Just use the phase "this girl I know" instead of her name.Now i hope these help! please rate if you like my advice
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2010): the best and only thing you can do is move on and focus on you and your goals, meeting and mingling with new people helps, i know it might not sound like the best advice but theres not really much you can do when you love someone
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reader, Mjfbla  +, writes (4 December 2010):
 Well stop all communication with her. Try to distract yourself with you friends, basically keep your mind busy. The rest will come in time. It might not seem like it but eventually you will be able to look back and wonder why it was so hard to do. Good LUCK!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2010): ~WALK AWAY~Her misery is obsessed with your company. ~LIVE, LOVE and LAUGH~
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