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writes: i'm attracted to both females and male. i just can't control it. i wished i'm normal. and i kind of fell in love with one of my bestfriend. i wish i could tell someone about it. but in my country if you're a lesbian or a gay. you would be discriminated by your own friends sometimes. i'm currently schooling. i don't want my friends to discriminate against me. they would feak out if they found out. i don't know what to do.
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reader, shambles  +, writes (16 August 2008):
hey i understand what your going through.. when i first started having feelings for women i used to try and pretend tehy werent real as i was too scared to be honest with anybody. But once i realised that i was bi i found that admittin it to myself was much harder than tellin other people.. you shouldnt be embarressed or ashamed of who you are and trust me people will admire you more for being honest.. but i think that before you start tellin people you have to be honest with yourself and think could it be more than a crush or just a really strong friendship. hope all goes okay for you x
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2008): thanks everyone for their replies. =Di'm gonna keep it to myself.thanks very much for your advises. it really helped alot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2008): It could be possible, because you are a teenager and around that age everyone gets a little confused about their sexuality, that it could be a phase you are going through at the moment. And you might find that in a few months you no longer like your best friend in that way.
If you think telling people would be bad then although it's horrible to keep it all locked up inside, it might be worse to tell people- especially if it's not certain that you are bisexual. Wait a few more years and see if you still feel the same way (not necessarily about your friend, but people in general), and then if there is a reason to tell your friends and family and you feel it is right then you should. Always go with your gut instinct on thse things - it always knows best!
Keep us all updated on how things. Best of luck to you :)
xx Hope xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2008): well im bi sexual and proud but it soundz really difficult 4 you im sori but if your friends cant exsept you than there not real friends but it will be hard but might be best if you dont tell anyone how you feel so you dont get discriminated
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2008): hey im jerrold and im 15 well just tell him how you fill and just be your self you make your own life dont let any hold you back if your friends dont support you well maybe they sholdnt be your friends.
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reader, love reigns! +, writes (9 August 2008):
 First of all, if tbese people are truly your friends, they will not discriminate. They should want to support you through this. You seem uncomfortable with these feelings you have and not just because you fear the 'discrimination' but perhaps because your mindset is the same as there's. Love yourself and be patient with your self. You are still very young and you may not actually be a bisexual but be going through a phase of experimenting and fantasising. It's not advisable to act on these feelings you have for your friend. Firstly because I wouldn't advise any one to have sexual or other relationship at that age with anyone. Give yourself a chance to see how you really feel with time or you may regret it later and not to mention, loose a friend. You seem to be from a religious country, don't forget to pray all the time for wisdom, knowledge and understanding in life and for guidance.
For every problem you face, someone elsed faces the same.
hope this is helpful and putb to muse, take care.
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reader, superrrshawna  +, writes (9 August 2008):
 that's tough, and i'm sorry you have to deal with discrimination. if you are really afraid of the consequences, i think it would be best just to keep your feelings to yourself. it isn't the best, but it doesn't seem like you are prepared to handle more than that?
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