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writes:I'm in a relationship, where I'm older than her for 3 years. Even in my past relationships, I've had the feeling of being uncomfortable, like I'm having trouble breathing. I DO love her, we've been together for 3 months, and she loves me a lot too, I guess. I do love her, it's just that idk sometimes she can be ugh too much, like maybe it's just ME, because I like being alone, and spending time alone, but because of this relationship I've lost that! I have talked to her about this, but somehow it didn't work. I don't know guys what to do! I usually make rather fast decisions nowadays... I don't wanna regret one more thing, so can you guys please help me. I wanna end it but I think that would be very stupid. Reply to this Question
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (29 May 2023):
 I'm guessing what you're trying to say is that you feel claustrophobic in the relationship. Well that's the sign that this relationship is not for you, or any relationship for that matter, right now. You're both too young anyway to be tied down by all this. Why not just enjoy life being single and doing your own thing? That's not stupidity, that's being logical.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2023): You may find that she wants to end it if you continue like this. And you have no decision to make. The grown up adult thing to do is chat to her about it and tell her precisely how you feel and ask her if she can please respect this and give you your alone time - it is not as if you are wanting time with other girls or doing ridiculous things like drugs, drinking, gambling, so it is not such a huge ask. Does your girlfriend have a lot of company and things to do or is she reliant on you for company? In which case she was an unsuitable and poor choice for a girlfriend. People who like relationships that are the way you describe need to choose a partner who is very much the same or not reliant or needy. It may be that you do not really love her at all, and that is the real problem.
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