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writes:Hey, I have this friend that I have known for a yearish. And I see her quite a bit but I don't want to keep seeing her because I have other friends that I prefer to hang around with. She keeps calling me up and asking me if I want to hang out, and I just keep saying I'm busy. But if I keep saying I'm busy than she is gonna get suspicious. I realize that its kind of mean but I don't want to stay in touch with her. How do I lose touch with her? Because she just keeps calling me up. Please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, love-him  +, writes (21 August 2007):
 hi bbe, tell her straight, i had a friend like this, and i told her straight and my reasons why i didnt want to talk again and she took it straight.. giving hints isnt enough. i hope i helped :)
Mail me if u wanna talk x x x
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (21 August 2007):
 I suspect there's more than friendship here. No friend-friend would continue calling if you were continually busy. She's a friend who wishes to be your girlfriend, and this, I guess, is what you don't like.
You should tell her exactly what you feel and why. You don't have to be mean to say you don't love her.
By the way, hints are NEVER a good idea. I wonder if anyone will agree to the statement that a problem is solved if you avoid it (that is, if you drop hints in the hope the other person will take them). If you have told her, for example, that you won't be taking her calls because you have to study for a test, that's an excuse people can believe, and fail to see as a hint.
She is not a monster because she loves you and you don't. Think of all the pain your hints are causing to her. This is the exact reverse of what usually happens when a man loves a woman and she doesn't. Have you been there, ever?
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reader, ilikenight +, writes (21 August 2007):
 Don't tell her you don't wanna see her. That is cruel & will scar her. Just quit answering her calls. Eventually, she will stop calling.
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reader, kenny +, writes (21 August 2007):
 Sometimes in this life we have to be cruel to be kind. Not returning her calls and saying you are busy is not working, so all you can do is tell her that face to face, or over the phone that you don't want to see her anymore. Maybe after this if she still calls it may be an idea to get a new mobile, or change your number.
Good luck x
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