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writes:I'm not a virgin.My girlfriend is.I feel really bad about this because I think I love her and I want to sleep with her, but she says that she isn't ready yet. I asked whether she thought oral sex counted she said yes, so nothing. We kiss and have full on make out and feel up sessions but no further, we have been topless together but always kept pants on. I know that two girls can't have proper sex but it is the feeling that you get, I want it. Is there anyway I could try and convince her I don't want to bully her if she doesn't feel ready but I think she is. Please give me some advice.
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reader, Drat001 +, writes (5 January 2011):
I've got to comment on your statement that "two girls can't have proper sex." That's just the kind of closed-minded sentiment about lesbian/bisexual women that I wouldn't expect from someone who's gay/bi. Sorry to say, but if that's your opinion about sex and love, then you really shouldn't be pressuring anyone, let alone a virgin, into anything.
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo +, writes (2 January 2011):
 If she isn't ready then she isnt ready and there is nothing you can do about it, and if you really care for her you wouldnt want to. You should let her come round to the idea in her own time, if you feel you need to talk about it with her, then when you talk about it, just tell her how you feel and that you car for her without putting pressure on her.
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reader, archykins  +, writes (2 January 2011):
if you really love her then dont pressure her. let her come to things on her own terms.
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reader, Mjfbla  +, writes (2 January 2011):
 You can think all you want. If she says she isnt then she isnt. Do you want her to regret her first time because she felt pressured into it? Or that things were rushed. Tell her how you feel. Tell her you think you love her and that you want to be with her. You want to share that with her. BUT add in that you respect her decision and you'll wait for her. Maybe she just wants you to back off a lil. Also did you consider that maybe she is just really nervous? Have you asked her about that?
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