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anonymous
writes:I'm bisexual and I've been totally comfortable with that for a good while now but nobody knows. A couple of years ago my best friend 'came out'. Since then she changes if she's gay, bi or straight every other month and she's even had relationships with some straight girls that she's 'converted' because she likes playing with people's heads. I don't know. I guess she kind of flirted with them a lot and pressured them towards it. I don't like her in that way though. There's a girl I like. I don't really think I stand a chance but it's made me think about coming out and how I couldn't really do it because people would just think I'm copying my friend like other girls have in the past. My parents mainly would think that I'm just copying her because most of the time they seem to think I can't think for myself anyway. Just how do I let them know I'm serious? And how, if I did do it, do I keep my friend off my back about it? Because her and other people are sure to imply that I'm just jumping on the band wagon when I'm not.
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reader, tishatasha +, writes (1 January 2008):
 People cant exactly say your copying her now can they?
I mean Its just the way you are *Thats sounds kinnda harsh couldnt find anyway to put it sorry!!!!!!!!!* and if people say you are 'copying' her just ignore them.
Just be who you are and be proud of that!
Hope this helps ^-^
From Tasha xXx 3
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reader, MissKate +, writes (30 December 2007):
 Hi,
Never mind what other people think!
You do whatever it takes to be happy, even if it causes other people to think bad of you, as you can always make BETTER friends later!
Maybe you should also talk to your Best Friend about this too, she might be able to help and give you her advise.
Good Luck!
Kate x
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2007): Thank you :)I'm quite shy too so I suppose part of me is using her as an excuse. Though I'd like to be honest with people. If only to stop people going on about when I'm going to get a boyfriend. Because, though I know I'm bi... I definitely lean more towards females.
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reader, Signed-With-EyeLiner +, writes (28 December 2007):
 I think you should come out and Im proud of you for knowing that you are bi and accepting that and that you have the confidence to come out. Let everyone know you have felt this way for a while and you have simply wanted to make sure you were bi before comming out. Use your friend for support but maybe its good if you helped her figure out her own sexuality. Make it clear to your parents that your certain your bi and maybe try ask the girl you like out to show them your serious. Give them time to accept it though. Much luck x
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reader, mama2three  +, writes (28 December 2007):
 You have to be true to yourself, regardless of what other people say :)
Who cares if they think you are 'copying' your friend! Is it worth living a lie?
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reader, dc.ryan +, writes (28 December 2007):
 Hello,
I don't think your friends will think you have copy'd your friend - its your sexuality, and you obviously know how you feel - no one can argue with that fact.
How ever, before you release this to your friends you need to make sure you are and that you intend on carrying to be bisexual - else perhaps they will feel a bit mislead.
If they are good friends to you, they will think nothing-less of you and offer you their support!
Ryan
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