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*t1989
writes:Ok so I went to a party the other weekend and met this girl. Her and her boyfriend were fighting and she asked me if I would drive her home and I ended up sleeping with her and we talked for a while and I felt a connection with her. We both said that we would like to get to know each other better, We exchanged numbers and I've talked to her once twice since then the first time she called me and the second time I called her. I feel really sh**y for not calling her more but she has a boyfriend and I really want to be with her. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2009): Do you really want to be involved with a girl who cheated on her boyfriend because they got into a fight? She didn't even break up with him over the fight! What happens if you start dating her and you two have a fight? You are always gonna think that she is gonna sleep with someone else because of what happened between the two of you. A relationship without trust is a miserable one. If she has no respect for him, she will not have any for you.
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reader, tt1989 +, writes (23 November 2009):
tt1989 is verified as being by the original poster of the question[Moderator note: tone it down please, OP]first off thank you; anna2037, CaringGuy, and the one anonymous reply; for your input you have cleared things up for me a bit. I didn't put this in my original post but i thought you should know that the connection i felt with her was really deep. I have major trust issues so it usually takes me months to get to know someone enough to talk to them like I was able to talk to her after just one night. I just thought that would help you understand why I have feelings for her after just one night. Second Soon567, I did not take advantage of her, SHE asked me to drive her home, SHE kissed me first, SHE made a move on me, and SHE called ME the next day. So I am not some loser who needs to get a life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2009): Nothing is stopping her from dumping her boyfriend and becoming yours...so why doesn't she??? You need to ask yourself that! If she really wants you, she'll choose you! If not, then don't waste your time waiting around for her!
Or, if you really want her, then tell her to break up with her boyfriend!
Bottom line is she either chooses you, or she doesn't. All you can do is tell her how you feel and tell her to make a choice...
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (22 November 2009):
This isn't a good idea. She has a boyfriend, and unless she dumps him, she isn't worth chasing. She has to come to you.
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reader, anna2037 +, writes (22 November 2009):
Hello
Iam sorry that it seems like both of you are in a bit of a dilemma at the moment. She had a fight with her boyfriend, you drove her home, then slept together.
Sometimes this type of situation can be a little daunting, because she asked you the favour, i think that the lady was a little vulnerable at that particular moment.
After having this fight with her boyfriend, and of course you not knowing the full story, i would give her some breathing space so that she can talk things through with her boyfriend to see if the relationship can be salvaged.
And as for yourself, i feel that it would be best for you to remain in the background for the time being, therefore not to go jumping straight in. Just take time out to think the whole situation through first, yes, do stay in touch but see what occurs, sadly some people jump straight into another relationship when they are still vulnerable from the previous one, so do tread carefully, take your time, and let her call the shots as she may feel that it is possible to put things right, so please give her a chance.
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