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writes:My girl and i have been going out for 1.5 years and it was awsome but i lost feelings for her and now she is all lovey and all ... i called to break up with her many times but like she will just start crying and it doesnt bother me thta she crys cause i just dont have fun with her anymore... and i cant break up with her i just cant but i dont want to be iwth her... and on top of that she always goes out with her other guy frineds before she will hang out with me.. so i was the one she would hang out with if no1 else would...soo thats when i started going out and hangong out with some other new pepole and i found a girl that i really really like and she is just awsome and like i cant get away from this new girl and i also have never cheated on her i have no idea what to do Reply to this Question
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reader, rent +, writes (3 August 2007):
rent is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwow thanks guys this really does help.. i did what i had to do and its going great thanks so much and take care
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reader, Henrich +, writes (1 August 2007):
I was once involved in a relationship that lost the spark. I became less and less interested in the girl I was dating and started to become miserable. I assesed my feelings thoughts and emotions and found the problem was basically in my head. You see, when the problems started it was all because I somehow subconciously did things to worsen the situation like being less agreeable, negative, doubtful, resentful,cynical, etc. The thing that was the worst of all was my lack of communication. You need to tell this girl of the things that run through your head because if she's with you it probably means she cares about what you have to say. If you don't you'll see soon enough if not already that you will start to turn all the blame on her and if she is loving and caring you will singlehandedly destroy what can possibly be the best thing that ever happened to you and then it will be one mistake you'll regret for the rest of your life.
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reader, lovehate  +, writes (1 August 2007):
 Hunni i think you just have to bite the bullet with her and be honest. I know it feels impossible to do but if you have no feelings for her it should be easier. Tell her calmy and nicely. She will become even more 'lovey' if you don't tell her quickly. Don't worry this happens a lot. Telling her soon will be much kinder! I hope this helps x
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2007): This is a very common situation and i know as you,ve been with this girl for over a year now that your going to find it hard to break up with her but the longer you leave it the more hurt she will get, or course shes bound to be upset and will cry but she will get over it. You have to do whats best for you, you cant stay with this girl if your not happy with her, you have to think about yourself and tell her how you feel and why you feel this way. Also if shes hanging with other guys and when they've gone and your the last one she wants to hang out with, maybe shes also breaking away from you. Dont stay with her because you feel sorry for her, Break up with her and try asking the other girl you starting to like.
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reader, sweeite +, writes (1 August 2007):
hi, i know it must be hard but i think you should just be honest with her because the longer you leave it the harder it will get. take care and good lck
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reader, NuVu +, writes (1 August 2007):
End it. Like ripping off a band-aid. It stings, but its ultimately easier on everyone if you just do it immediately and honestly.
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (1 August 2007):
 Hi,
I think you should just be honest with her and tell her you dont want to be with her anymore.
It sounds like you will be doing her a great favour!!!
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reader, kenny +, writes (1 August 2007):
 You have got to finish the relationship with your girlfriend sooner rather than later. The longer you leave it the harder it will get.
You say you can't break up with her, but you don't want to be with her anymore, if you don't want to be with her then just walk away, finish it.
Don't give in because you get the waterworks, you are doing the right thing by finishing it.
good luck
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (1 August 2007):
 Well good for you that you dont want to cheat. Its a shame more don think like that!
U need to just be firm, tell her its over & be direct & to the point.
Say what you have said on here. She should have more pride than to want to stay with someone that doesnt want to be with her anyway!
Don't respond to her calls or txt & move on with your life.
Dont let someone try and control you. Manipulative behavior gets worse if you let it. You dont want the next thing to be her threatening to do something silly. Because thats how it will get.
Walk away now while you have been honest & not done something nasty to her.
Your conscience is clear!
All the best
C xxxx
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