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writes:I don't have the courage to tell my girlfriend that I want a break for 3 months. A good clean break up! I live with her and I still would pay half of all bills. Would writing a letter be a good idea?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (22 September 2009):
You've got to tell her to her face. And why three months? That's a bit cruel. Better to make it permanent if you're not interested. Don't keep her on a string, she'll only resent you for it. Do not even think about doing it by letter. Face to face only.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2009): if you want to break up with her then do it face to face, a letter would be insulting.
and why a three month break? why not four months or one month?, do you love her? because if you suggest this break you are telling her you do not want to be around her (you have your reasons) but she may just break it off completely.
people with problems either sort it out or split up, this mordern break idea is not the way to sort out problems, it usually just creates more.
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (22 September 2009):
No, writing a letter is not a good idea. If anything, it really pisses a woman off when a guy can't say what he feels to her face. Writing a letter would almost guarantee that she won't get back with you in 3-months, she'll think that you're a coward and that you don't respect her enough to talk to her face-to-face, it's like you might as well send an email or text message if you're going to do that.
I also agree with quiet-echo on just breaking up, not giving it a time limit of 3-months. If she's a mature adult she'll realize that a 3-month "break" is probably unrealistic and that she'll need to move on with her life. I think it's best to decide what you want and either you want to be with her or you don't, because a break in many people's eyes means that you're through: for good.
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