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writes:I asked this question and I tried to do it but I didn't succeed.I feel like breaking up with y boyfriend because I had gone into this relationship very very soon after my 2 yer relationship with my ex. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 months now but have been talking for 4 and I really feel like I need space and not be in a relationship because it was too soon. My boyfriend also annoys me Often which he didn't used to do in the first month and a half. But I don't know why he does now.Anyway I tried breaking up with him a few days ago and I almost succeeded until he started telling me if we could talk after school and if he could take me home because he thought that we needed to talk about our problems, and to make it worse he almost started to cry. His eyes looked kind of red and his mouth kept going in that position where you try to stop from crying.I guess that made me let him take me home and say "I was just angry, is all."We are still together. I remember having that sense of relief when I said we needed to break up and I felt better because I wouldn't have to worry about being In a relationship anymore but util I saw his face, I just reeled back in.Ahhhh can someone help me please? I don't know how to do it without going back to him.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (31 March 2012):
 It's never easy or comfortable to be the one to end a relationship...someone is always going to come off worse and won't be able to see the big picture.
If you have decided beyond all doubt that you want to end it, you have to tell him to his face, be direct and calm and try not to let his reaction distract you. Keep it short and don't spend ages saying a tearful goodbye.
A word of wisdom. If you do end it...let it be final. Don't be running back to him if you feel lonely or upset. If you break it off with him, you owe it to him to make it a clean break so he can move on and forget you. No contact is a must until all feelings have died down and people have moved on. He will be upset and may cry but given enough time and space,he will be able to to get over you quickly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2012): if you feel you dont want to be in the relationship you need to break up with him, yes he may be upset and may shed tears but the longer you stay with him the more hes going to fall for you and the more upset and hurt he is going to be in the long run.
Explain to him how you feel and that you are just not ready for this relationship, its going to be really hard but honestly you will just make it worse staying with him when your not 100% committed.
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