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writes:Ok well I was.with my boyfriend for two years the first year was wonderful. Then he cheated on me hurt me bad but I loved him so much that I gave him anither chance then he started accusing me of cheating the whole time ive been fathful.he dosent belive anything I say then he left me for three weeks just gone I know im a good women im there for him why cause he cheats he thinks so strongly im cheating im doing nothing to make him think so its like im being punished for what he done to us im so hurt and confused I just dont want.to hurt anymore
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2012): Get this sad excuse for a man out of your life as soon as possible.
He's an emotional abuser and a cheat. He's trying (pathetically) to deflect your attention from his cheating by accusing you of doing the same.
End your relationship with him now or you will continue to have a life of misery.
You're the only one who can change this situation. Do it now.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (31 March 2012):
 He seems unable to own his own actions and "man" up to his own mistakes, so he takes the easy way out .. and accuse you of doing what he already did.
It's not going to stop. I would flat out tell him that you can't be in a relationship with someone who can't/won't trust you.
And then... I'd find myself a guy who CAN be faithful and trust you.
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reader, Bats  +, writes (31 March 2012):
Hey,
If he is unfaithful and if he accuses you of cheating then he is no good. You are a strong independent woman and don't need him hurting you. You should just get away from him and find someone a lot better who will treat you like you deserve to be treated the whole time you two are together.
Hope this helps
From Bats x
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave +, writes (31 March 2012):
Get rid. You can do better than him.
He cheated on you, yet you gave him another chance, now he's turned on you and personally I think he's looking for an excuse to get out.
Dump him before he dumps you and move on.
There are better people out there who will treat you like you deserve to be treated.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (31 March 2012):
 if you dont want to be hurt anymore then you know what you have to do.hes just passing his guilt over to you and accusing you of what hes done or doing Hes not ever gonna make you happy is he Life is to short for this situation to go on xxx
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reader, Miamine +, writes (31 March 2012):
 Yes, you are right. He done wrong, he is the one who cheats and lies. But rather than punish himself, his ego is protected and he punishes you instead. Because he can't accept that he is a devil, while you remain an angel, he want's to cover you with mud and pretend your a low down snake, just like he is.
He is covering up his guilt, by trying to put the blame on you. He is not a decent guy. He is very abusive. Tell him to go and get some therapy and fix himself or you will leave. Refuse to answer anymore questions to feed his need to dump his problems on you. Tell him if he accuses you of cheating one more time, you will leave him and never come back.
He's using you as his whipping boy. There is nothing you can say or do to make him stop. He actually wants you to be unfaithful, so he can curse you more, and feel that you and him are both even - he can't hate himself, so he hates you instead.
Why do you stay with a man, who cheats on you and then abuses you and calls you names, and forces you to come and talk to strangers? Is that what a loving guy and a good relationship looks like nowadays.
In life, people can only treat us bad if we allow it... as long as you stay your giving him permission to treat you anyway he pleases. One year great, and 365 days of tears... please remind us all again... Why the hell are you staying?
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