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writes:i met a guy 4 months ago started texting wich quickly moved on to sexting and naked pictures met him 8 days after meeting him and had sex with him 10 minutes later ive met up with him a further 2 times but always on his terms. i really really like him but i know he just sees me as a booty call how can i change his mind.i sent him a racy picture of me yesterday and he didnt reply.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (14 February 2013):
 You have set yourself up to be mostly/exclusively a booty call....... So, the only thing you can do to change that situation is to remove yourself from it..... Sorry.
Good luck... and, please, DON'T plunge in to "booty land" so quickly, next time you encounter a guy who you find enticing.....
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (14 February 2013):
 Honey you need to let him go. He’s not interested in you as anything other than a handy penis holder.
The problem is HE Did nothing wrong.
Use this as a learning experience... do not sext with a guy, never send dirty pictures.. (NEVER ever even if you are married) and keep sex off the table...
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reader, Serpico +, writes (14 February 2013):
You've already set the precedent with your actions. Sorry to say, once a booty call, always a booty call. Chances are you will never be anything else to him. Once a person has no respect for you, its very difficult to get it back, and in the case of sexual relations, its almost impossible.Live and learn.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2013): "he just sees me as a booty call how can i change his mind."You can't, and if you could then sending racy pictures wouldn't be the way to do it.If you don't want to be seen as a booty call, then don't send naked pictures to random cyber-strangers and don't hop into bed with them ten minutes after meeting in person.iAmHereToHelpYou cites the timeless phrase that my grandmother shared with my mother more than 60 years ago, "Why buy the cow when the milk is free." Technology changes, morals shouldn't.
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reader, femmefemale  +, writes (14 February 2013):
Forget him. You are nothing more than a vagina to him.You have a vagina which means you possess one of men's biggest weaknesses. You have the power to get a man to treat you the way you want to be treated because you have a vagina. The truth is men and everyone tbh takes for granted what they get easily. If you got money easily you would just waste it, its the same for guys and sex. You are just a vagina to him. Please learn to love yourself. read the link. It's about your value as a woman. http://jezebel.com/5044483/let-us-hope-that-the-traditional-woman-is-resurrected-and-feminism-forever-banished-from-the-record-of-man
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2013): Thanks for replying I have stopped answering his booty call and he's stopped answering my texts. No I haven't been on a date.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (14 February 2013):
It's relatively common for a friends with benefits thing to progress into a relationship.
What you have here is the very definition of a booty call. No offense, but you might as well be a free escort as far as he goes.
You may feel a connection with him, which can happen from having sex with him. But have you ever had anything other than sex? Have you been on a date? Have you spent quality time together outside of the bedroom? If you haven't then your feelings aren't genuine, they're "orgasm induced".
Also, in a relationship you generally want stability. How can either one of you expect stability when you know that your girlfriend/boyfriend is the type that jumps onto bed with someone 10 minutes after meeting them?
The only thing I can suggest is that you completely open up with him. Tell him you'd like to go out on a real date with him.
But, it may cost you your booty call to tell him this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2013): ^ Totally agree. You and him moved along rather quick and gave it up too quick. I don't think he'll see you as anything else rather than a booty call.
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reader, when nothing goes right go left +, writes (14 February 2013):
 Im afraid that this is something that you probably wont be able to change it because when a guy is getting to know you then he is deciding what kind of relationship that he wants to have with you and when you sleep with him straight away you put yourself as someone to use for sex and once you do this it is near impossible to impossible to change it.So you should just learn from it and if you start dating a guy and you think that you might want to have a long term relationship with then get to know them a while and if you have a connection and he has strong feeling for you then you can have sex with feelings involved and it wilk be so much better and you can both have sex whilst thinking that a relationship is coming out of it.Hope this helps.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (14 February 2013):
 If you start out as a booty call I'm afraid you are never going to be able to change that as all he sees you as is easy sex whenever he wants it, you gave him sex and naked pictures very easily early on in this 'relationship' so he knows he doesnt have to make any effort to get what he wants, so why would he all of a sudden change his mind?
If you want a real relationship with a man, from the start you must NEVER sext or send naked pictures, they need to work hard to see that kind of thing and even when they get there, they need to see it in the flesh not though a picture message. If he's seen the goods even before he takes you out on a date, what is going to make him want to take you out? He doesnt need to bother because he's seen it all already!
Even after you have been on a few dates, you still need to make him wait before you have sex. That way you can tell if he is genuinely interested in you, if he just wants sex he wont bother waiting and will get bored quickly.
FWB/booty calls NEVER turn into relationships, because you started out wrong in the first place. Men dont want easy women to take home to meet mum, they want nice respectable women who are classy and make a man work for it. Learn your lesson and move on, there is no hope with this guy.
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