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writes:iam 24 and have a diploma and studying further. my girlfriend is 17 and still doing secondary education.iam planning to have a wife in early 2013. so do these differnces matter in a marriage life?what if she is selected for university studies,should i wait for her? or should i have two girlfriends so that when one fails i will fall back on the other?your answers are welcome.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2011): No, do not have two girlfriends, that is just absurd. You shouldn't plan a year that you want to get married or a time limit on it. If you really love your girlfriend you will wait for her if she is the one that you see yourself being with for the rest of your life. You're only 24, people get married much older than that all the time. From what it sounds, you are thinking about having two girlfriends, in case one doesn't work out. This means you are not even truly in love with her. Don't get married unless you want to be with her for the rest of your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2011): Both of you should be ready for marriage, to get married.
If you love her and she loves you, you will wait for her.
No you should NOT have 2 girlfriends so that when one fails you have another to fall back on, UNLESS you are open with both girls that you are doing this to them AND you allow them to similarly have other boyfriends while dating you so that if their other boyfriend fails they have you to fall back on and if not they can choose the other boyfriend over you anytime. (and you can see how complicated this can get)
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reader, Lotsalove.  +, writes (2 February 2011):
 Should i have two girlfriends so that when one fails i will fall back on the other?..... Please tell me thats a joke!!???? Imagine if she said that to you. 'I'll keep you, but have another guy in school/university just incase me and you don't work out'. Im sure you wouldnt take that too smoothly.
Firstly, you are in different life stages. She's 17, shes barely an adult. She hasn't left school, therefore she doesn't know what the real world is like, she hasn't explored it yet, and that includes guys. Where as you are 7 years her senior, you have alot more experience and knowledge than her. I HIGHLY DOUBT that she wants to be married at 18/19??
Either you accept that she is 17 and not ready to be married and you enjoy your relationship until she is. Or you let her go and let her grow up into an adult in her own time, and you find somebody else of the same age range who has the same passions of getting married soon.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (2 February 2011):
 If you are living a scheduled existance, I feel sad for you but don't drag another into your wierd lifestyle. Love isn't scheduled
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