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writes: im 12 but very mature for my age.entering middle school and desprately wanting a boyfriend to be kissed by.any advice?help! Reply to this Question
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reader, Mickey_Powell +, writes (17 June 2006):
 Hi... take your time, u dont want to waste your first kiss on someone that doesnt deserve your kiss! Wait until u find a guy that u get along with, so the kiss wont be wasted! It will happen soon enough trust me!!
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (15 June 2006):
 Don't be desperate. Being kissed doesn't _mean_ anything all by itself, so try not to build it up into a make-or-break issue.
Most girls and boys don't start doing any kissing until they're a year or two (or three!) older than you are now, despite what TV shows try to convince you. Think of all the kids you knew in Year Six. Chances are, no more than 2 or 3 of them have kissed anybody, even though they might want to, so you're in the same boat as the huge majority of your age-mates.
Rather than being fixated on being kissed by someone, I think what you're actually "desperate" for is for your attractiveness and personality to be valued. And that's normal; we all want that.
So accept that you're a normal kid, entering a normal stage of adolescence and that there's nothing wrong with wanting attention from the other sex. But don't rush into anything, just because you've allowed yourself to build up the importance of a kiss into something major. A kiss is just a pressing of lips and doesn't mean anything, taken by itself.
If you want a relationship where someone values you -- again, we all do -- the way to do that is to be an interesting person with a broad ange of interests and a fun outlook on life. That's a big ask, but that should be your goal -- not just kissing, per se.
So, pursue your interests, both inside and outside of school. Make time to have fun with people, and ensure that you're always ready to make new friends with both girls and boys. Be open to new hobbies and new experiences. Take advantage of all the options that you'll be given in the next few years of your education, in things like school excursions, and elective courses. Join clubs where people like to challenge themselves, like debate teams and drama groups.
By the time you've done all that, you'll be surrounded by people who like you and who like the same things you do. And *that's* how relationships begin. (read: kissing)
Good luck, dear.
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (15 June 2006):
 Your young take your time, the right boy will be out there somewhere. The more you look for something the more you wont find it, have a little patience. All good things come to those that wait!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2006): Nice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2006): ask one out then
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2006): Hiya, i went through the same situation. However I acted upon it and kissed this boy, however he broke my heart and messed me up. He shattered my heart. If I could I would have waited until I'd met my current boyfriend, who is just amazing. So unless you are in a relationship that you know is secure and trustworthy, then I would advise you just to wait, the right guy will definately come along. Flirt, be nice, don't bitch, and SMILE and you'll have them queueing up!
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