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writes: im in a long distance relationship with a man i am totally in love with (and when I say long distance im talking LONG distance we only get to see each other every 2 months) and since he is a guy its hard for him to not get any sex. He has tried to initate stuff over webcam and such but I cant help but just laugh at him. I want to keep him happy and make our time apart easier but I cant take this seriously! i cant get into it at all, not sure what to do... any advice would be great, from you guys too!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2006): Hi. You havent said how long youve been with this guy and how much time youve spent together. All i can give you is my experience of long distance relationships. YOu need to keep the contact alive. Whether thats flirty texts, pictures with nice clothes or cute outfits. I have never had web cam sex and when my ex went to live abroad i never dreamed i would do, however i love my partner and i miss sex just as much as him before he left he bought me a vibrator and now we have web cam sex and its great as he can speak to me and see me and I can see him and speak to him in a sexual way, it sometimes helps to feel sexually close until i next see him, but you have to feel comfortable as you will not enjoy it if you dont feel safe or comfortable with your partner. Just be happy he wants to have web cam sex with you and is not out there looking for sex elsewhere, Hope this helps!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2006): You can try intamacy in other ways- for example write him letters all the time( this can be a fun thing to do in your free time if your feeling lonely) And write an erotic story in the letter and send him a picture or something.He most likely will send you back a nice letter saying he appreciates it etc. Or send little gifts that make him look forward to the next time you meet.
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reader, Helen Help! :)  +, writes (16 June 2006):
 Hey Huni,
I never think long distance relationships are going to work but im hoping u prove me wrong. i think that u should try n participate in the web cam stuff perhaps jus for his sake to make him happy relationships are about giv and take so sumtimes u jus have to be the one to give, play along i mean theres no need to be embarresed if this is someone you love and trust, if your not compfortable with him watchin u then ask see if u can watch him. say ull tell him what to do by typing it and u can watch even if seceretly your laughing your head off. this way ull keep him happy and satisfied gd look.
Helen x
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reader, camille +, writes (15 June 2006):
 Has this always been a long distance relationship? Why is it? How far? Why only every 2 months? There's not enough info to try and make a decent reply, sorry!I do not understand this at all " since he is a guy its hard for him to not get any sex". Why just because he is a man? Many women find it hard to live without sex too.... Anyway it sounds like you have issues about trusting him becaus eoif lack of sex, doesn't that go both ways? If you love each other it can work out, but try to make the visits more frequent. Also I'd say try really hard not to laugh at your web cam antics as I'm sure that's very off putting for him. You're probably denting his esteem, feelings and making him feel undesirable, I know I would...unless I also found it funny and I assume he's not...?
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