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writes:Well its a really tough time for me right now. I have been in love with my best friend(a guy) for nearly 2 years now and the pains just getting worse. It wont go away.Throughout these two years i was always so confused because i thought he liked me which is what started me feeling this way for him, others around us thought he did and said it was obvious but he seems to shy. In these two years i could never confront him due to issues with other people who really objected to us being friends, this made us awkward with each other even when we werent around them because it had got to the point where we were always awkward and so made thing difficult. Even thought thing have become pretty good between us recently the pain is still there, because of everything that happened i could never truly ask him about it as he said he didnt to other people in the past. So ive always been left confused and held on to the hope.Which is why im in this mess now, obviously hes one of my best mates, we dont talk much which does upset me quite a bit but hes one of these people that are never online much. But i dont want to loose him. And tbh i dont think me cutting contact with him would help me anymore because i always feel lost without him and just wish he was here.Something happened a while ago, just as friends but to me it felt like it was more than friends because he got so close to me and we sat there cuddling for about an hr and just messing around which he doesnt normally do with anyone.(he started all that) And hes not one to do something if hes gonna regret it. But i need to get over him because its controlling my life but i dont wanna loose him. Hes my world, hes who i am and i really need some help. Ive never been one to want a bf so it doesnt make it any easier by the fact that i couldnt care less about going and finding someone else because all i want is him. When im with him im soooo gonna end up pushing him away soon because i keep just hugging him if im cold and i dont think he likes it. i wannma be friends but i also want that closeness. Please help me!
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reader, Lee Adama  +, writes (21 December 2009):
 Reading what you've written, I dont honestly think remaining friends but having that closeness is very likely. If, as you say, he doesn't like you hugging etc then one of two things are likely. You'll either push him away for good, or he'll start to indulge, & from the sounds of it being a FWB isn't what youre after. Something I'm trying to come to terms with, & it might help here, is that even if you find the right person, if the time isn't right, then it wont work.
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