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writes:well.been with my bf for more than a year. i will try keeping it short. he goes on dating website and send request to women. and i dnt know how far it goes with them but i check his phone and i have his password as well which he does not know.I also know he hasnt met anyone lately. I confronted him many times, he just start shouting and yeah he would deny it at first. but lately he said he's stopped, he gonna concentrate on his business and do more constructive things in his life. well guess what i believed him, but today i thought i might check and i saw he went there again. i think he has no idea how much it does hurt me. Leaving him is not an option for me right now. may be in couple of month i will be better off without him, but right now no. i can't fink of leaving him. and yeah i love him so much. i just wish i could learn to accept it and wish it didnt had any effect on me anymore. every time i saw that he went there, i start yelling and crying on my own.i wish i could be stronger.if anyone could advice me, would be great Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2009): If you truly can't leave him right now because of life circumstances, then change your focus in life. Make your future your number one priority, figure out a pathway to a better life and then firmly plant your feet on that path so that you NEVER have to stay with someone that treats you this way, ever, again.
Stop checking up on him and making him the center of your universe. When you put your concentration on yourself and your happiness, good things will happen. Many times the guy will notice as well and pay closer attention to YOU. Learn to love yourself and then others will love you as well. If you feel you are unworthy, you will continue to be treated that way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2009): http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/understanding-why-someone-fakes-a-future-with-you/
I think you need to read every articlel on this site and hopefully gain some backbone by reading this.
You are living with an Emotionally Unavailable Man, and Assclown and you are in a Fake Relationship.
As hard as it is, as much as you love him, I hope you will not waste your years here on earth letting this guy walk all over you.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (21 December 2009):
 You want to be stronger?
Then whenever you use "I love him so much" stab yourself with a fork.
Women use this as an excuse to not take charge of their own life. To just sit back and let things happen because "I love him so much" excuses being hurt by someone over and over again.
Your life, your responsibility not to be with a guy who obviously doesn't care and probably has anger issues as well. Nobody is forcing you to be with him and a broken heart heals very fast. Oh it might hurt for say six months, how is that different from how you will be feeling for the same amount of time when staying with him? And then things won't have changed.
"I love him so much" the excuse to keep standing on the broken glass rather then take on painful step of it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2009): Hey, I agree with icelordess. You say you wish you were stronger - the only way you are going to get stronger is to leave this terrible relationship! The longer you stay, the less strength and self-respect you will have...
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2009): Oh sweetie dont worry i have the same prob wif my bf,except he wont admit it,n i dont know hes password. U dont have to accept this.
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