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writes:I have a huuge crush on my guy friend....he has nooo ideaa....I can't tell him and never willHe has a gf or am not sure if she really is..it sux when I see a comment that he posts on her FB page...it becomes like my worst day ever when I see that....specially that he told me before that he is only playing her and that she is wayy outta his league...that was all in a friend to friend conversation!Anyways I wanna forget him soo bad....we don't have a chance together anyway...even if he didn't have a GF there is still noo chance for multiple reasons!So just tell me how should I get him off my mind and don't tell me tell him how you feel because I won't ever do that!!!!I just want to stop thinking about him and stop giving shit about if he has a girlfriend or if they are good together or not!.....I wanna BREATHE!!!!
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reader, Alice8  +, writes (2 July 2010):
"specially that he told me before that he is only playing her and that she is wayy outta his league" do you want to be with a guy who can do this to a girl? i would say you should stay friends, if theres any chance he may play you like he is playing her please reconsider. Friendship is envaluable and relationships come and go,so just be his friend, and when your both more mature about relationships let it come naturally.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2010): Hey there, well, I guess it will be harder to forget him if he is a friend of yours and you have regular contact with him. Start concentrating on your own life and girlfriends and find a hobby so that your mind is on other things. Unfortunately, this crush has to run its course and if your out there meeting new people and doing things you may find it easier to forget him sooner than later!! Good luck, I'm going through the same thing btw and these are the things I am doing, it doesn't work all the time but I do know that the busier I am, the better.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (2 July 2010):
 I hear you, I have a crush on a close friend and can't bring myself to tell her. I recently asked her to do something together and got shot down. It ruined my day. I really feel for you.
Your best bet is to separate yourself from him completely, or confess your feelings. Since you aren't going to tell him what you want, then you have to stop communications with him.
It will be very difficult, but time will heal. Trying to find someone who returns your feelings would also help.
Good luck!
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (2 July 2010):
 I've been in a situation like this. I was crazy for my best guy friend around last summer/fall. and it'd drive me bananas when he'd go for all these girls that I knew he could do better than, when I say that I didn't mean that these girls weren't good enough because they weren't me, but because I didn't even think that I was good enough either.
However, reality struck in. I kept his FB page up because it helped me realize that I'm not the girl he see's in that way. BUT I did talk to him and I told him how I felt. After all, its only fair that he knows.
so I think if you haven't told him how you felt, tell him. Its a risk but with every risk things can go bad or good. This also helps you move on if you hear "I think we should just be friends"...it helped me a ton hearing that from my guy friend.
So I think you should talk to him for that reason. its easier to move on when you hear it from him that he doesn't want to be with you, and that might not even be the case, he might be like "oh I had no idea you felt that way, we could give us a chance" and you could end up with him. but you will never know if you don't let him know how you feel.
and if you don't want to talk with him then I agree with deleting him on your FB and erasing him from your life. At least for a little while.
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reader, sweetsiepie +, writes (2 July 2010):
 hey hunny well 1st things 1st you need to take him off your facebook or remove him so you cant see comments that he makes that will start to make it easier and go out with ur friends start to have a laugh and get to no new people you'll soon forget him but you got to try hard enough to do it x
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