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*ilo-kid
writes:Hi guys 'n gals. I'm a 19 year old dude who is CRAZY about sex. I can't go even 2 days without getting some and I always use a condom but I just don't wanna go on like any more. It's like I'm dependent on sex. I have 3 girlfriends currently. If I want to sleep with maybe one of them and she says no, I don't force her but I just hav this wonderful way of making her feel guilty about it then she ends up agreeing but now I just want all of this to stop. Please help any way you can.
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reader, Milo-kid +, writes (4 March 2009):
Milo-kid is verified as being by the original poster of the questionCat! i dnt think it has much to do wit free tym coz i'm currently occupied as a sec yr student, i play soccer n volley ball n i go 4 practises 5 tyms a week. but u r ryt thou bcoz wen i'm in sport i even 4get dat i hav a gf, but once i'm alone dats wer de problem commences. i cal my gal ova n if she turns me down i cal another 1. so i think it has a lot to do wit gals failin to be firm wen dey say no to me (even wen i'm askin dem out).
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reader, wonderingcat  +, writes (4 March 2009):
 Hormones hormones hormones. :-)
Methinks you have too much free time in your hands.
Have you thought about being involved in other physical activites that will occupy your thoughts, your mind, your time, and spend your energy in a positive way? Like sports, work,m or helping others by doing volunteer work for instance. That way, you will have very little time to think about sex, and by the end of the day, all you want to do is collapse in bed and sleep! But you will be healthy, busy, learning new skills, new friends etc etc etc
Also, it NOT nice nor acceptable to make your girlfriend feel guilty to make her have sex with you. It is called abuse of power. Or in summary, abuse. There is nothing to be proud of about that.
At 19 yo, you should be showing that you are a responsible young adult, and one of the ways is to do this is that you know how to "manage" your sexual urges.
To give you an idea, fast forward lets say 10 years from now. You are married. Your wife is away for work, for a few weeks. You cannot control your urges, because you are so dependent upon it. What do you do if you found masturbation "not your thing"? Cheat on your wife? Go to sex workers? (thats cheating too). Then what happens? You bring STDs to the home. You may even bring HIV/AIDs to your wife and children
That's not the life you want, right? So, go find more stuff to do. Work would be good. Sports is fine too.
Good luck!
Cat
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