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writes:i want to show my wife nude body to strangers accidentally plz advice me what should i do?it makes me excited...and is this normal?. Reply to this Question
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (6 March 2011):
Hello again. I think you may have solved the problem yourself.
It is a fantasy really, that you are having.
Most fantasies are best kept as fantasies - in your mind only. Very rarely do they live up to your expectation, if you decide to act on them, and they often end up being a big disappointment. The reality rarely lives up to the ideas in your mind.
So my suggestion to you is - fantasize about it (in your mind only), when you are with your wife making love to her and in your own mind you can build on it to extravagant lengths if you like. Just make sure that it stays ONLY in your head. DON'T make it a reality.
Don't even mention it to your wife at all. It's not necessary.
If you did try to make it happen for real, there might be all sorts of problems.
It all comes down to the reasons you want others to see your wife's body naked. Is it to make them envious of you?
If you can figure out the reason, well then maybe you have the solution.
Perhaps like another poster said, you just need more fun in your life. It sounds like you're a bit bored.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2011): What's "normal"? I dated a woman for a few years who wanted to constantly have sex in public where other people could see us. I dated another woman for a long time who wanted her friends to watch us having sex and she wanted to watch me have sex with her friends. Both these women had professional careers and were fairly well respected. I don't think it's a question of what's normal I think it's a question of what does your wife want.
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reader, funkymonkey123  +, writes (4 March 2011):
I don't think it is normal. However, you could speak to her about your issue/fetish and see what she says. If she's grossed out about it, I suggest you look into councelling or hyptnotism to help you over come it. On the off chance that this is something she wishes to try or is intruiged about, you need to have a serious talk about what you could do, whether it be webcam viewing, or standing in front of the window, or even "accidentaly" dropping her towel after answering the door. Either way you need to talk to your wife about it.
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reader, JDinCali  +, writes (4 March 2011):
 It's nice you're so proud of your wife, but if she's not as self confident about her body then, you're going to run into trouble. Sure you could leave your window open like one poster does with his woman, but I caution you though. Allowing the chance for strangers to view your wife's body may introduce stalkers into your lives or worse. Someone might get a bit too jealous and do something about it.Your best bet is to get her approval for a web-cam broadcast to random people online, at least she'll be safe behind Yahoo. ...give her the option of putting a sexy mask on her eyes to make her feel more comfortable. Just some thoughts, hope it helps. Seems like your sex life just need a little adventure. I'm not a sex therapist, but maybe one can help you further if you feel you really do have an issue with this. Take care.
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reader, howcomehoney  +, writes (4 March 2011):
 You, my dear, have a fetish. Fetishes differ from kinks, in that kinks are little weird things that turn us on, but fetishes mean that we can't reach orgasm without fantasising about/indulging in our little weird thing.
You might want to talk to your wife about this. After all, you've been married six years. You must have some sort of discourse going about your sex life, right? And this sounds like a major impediment to it. If she has no idea what's going on, she might end up thinking that she's doing something wrong, without knowing that actually it's because of your fetish.
So listen. You talk to her. What's the worst that can happen? She's horrified, thinks you're a perv. Well, at least it's out in the open, know what I mean? What's the best that can happen? She might be into it.
However, do not, ever, EVER, try to get people to see her naked without telling her about it. EVER.
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reader, rahul000 +, writes (4 March 2011):
rahul000 is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks a lot for replying but my problem is very serious im married from last 6 years and i only done sex for 20-30 times in last 6 years..i dont get an erection unless someone watch my wifes breast and sexy legs..i masturbate twice daily by thinking that someone is watching my wife while changing clothes ans while i fuck..i want to make this happen but i cannot ask my wife this makes ruin the relationship i just want this accidentaly so that my wife thinks that im not doing this its just happen please help me with this ...please
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reader, rahul000 +, writes (4 March 2011):
rahul000 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks a lot for replying but my problem is very serious im married from last 6 years and i only done sex for 20-30 times in last 6 years..i dont get an erection unless someone watch my wifes breast and sexy legs..i masturbate twice daily by thinking that someone is watching my wife while changing clothes ans while i fuck..i want to make this happen but i cannot ask my wife this makes ruin the relationship i just want this accidentaly so that my wife thinks that im not doing this its just happen please help me with this ...please
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2011): Well I don't think its so strange, not for me anyhow. You do speak of "accidently" So I guess you are not putting her on complete open display somewhere public! Well I like the same thing, especially when we are holiday. Sometimes my wife will be in view, maybe not in full view but if someone were to look directly through the window of our hotel room, they might be rewarded with a glimps of a beautiful naked woman. Yeah I do get a kick out of it! I suppose I like the idea of someone else appreciating this beauty I have, seeing a set of full breasts and sexy legs. Just the idea of someone else being slightly jealous makes me feel selfishly good :-p
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2011): So, let's get this straight. In other words, you fantasise about violating your wife's privacy?
It's not normal. In fact, many fantasies aren't normal/safe/healthy (whatever word you want to use) but a lot of people know where to draw the line in the sand. They're ok to discuss their extreme fantasies with their partners, but they'd never follow through with them.
If the urge for you to show your wife's naked body is that great for you, I'd suggest going into counselling now before you destroy her integrity and your relationship.
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reader, Dorothy Dix +, writes (4 March 2011):
Hi there. No, it's not normal. Her naked body is only for you to see. It's something that should be kept sacred.
If you want to do that, perhaps you have no respect for her.
To even think of showing her naked body to strangers, is like tempting her to be unfaithful to you. Is that what you really want?
What does your wife think about this - have you asked her about it?
If you haven't, you really need to talk to her about these thoughts you are having and see what she says.
You can't make it happen if she says "No". Only she has the right to say what happens to her body.
In any case, there is really no way you could go about it except by going to a swingers club, I guess.
I wouldn't suggest going down that path, because that's all about people swapping partners with other people's partners and having sex with them.
Surely that's not what you want. It can lead to all kinds of problems, not to mention trust issues. Most likely it would end in divorce.
Think very carefully about what you wish for. This is not really a path you want to go down. Keep your wife to yourself, and just love her and cherish her.
If you want to make your life more interesting, start a hobby and gain some balance in your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2011): If my husband or bf showed my body to total strangers, his life wouldn't be worth living. I think you best get it out of your head, unless it's something your wife might like. But I see it as kinda gross. I don't think it's normal at all!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2011): Well, this is certainly not normal. Why would you even do that? Honest to God. Anyways, you should seriously take up counselling. It will really help. Man I feel sorry for your wife.
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