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writes:I'm 15 and I pretty much going through a LONG stage of depression. I don't get a long with my family including my annoying lil sister. They don't understand me and never will. They only have one mind set, they always think of the negative happening, and they think that what they say is always right and that's how it should be. But it's not. And to add on I really have issues with being told what to do and not do...and really hate when I don't have control over things that will effect. So me and my parents don't talk at all. I avoid them. I most likely say only a few words to them a day. And since I have such a lack of freedom....I'm left home alone, by myself, depressed with no one to talk to. It can get very frustrating. With so many Issues I have in life..this just adds on to the pile. I'm tired of being alone. I'm just waiting for the day I finish high school and move out..and go to college. I have feelings you know.. I have needs and things that I desire too. Im not saying I want to just go out into the world and pimp it up. But I WANT a good friendship, I WANT to be in a good relationship, I WANT to know what love is and love and be loved back. And lately I've just been craving that.. and my sex drive has been through the roof. So I'm like always "in the mood". And I just don't know how I'm going to be able to deal with this for AT LEAST another 3 years. Can anyone give me some insight and guidance? I'd greatly appreciate it. Im sorry I wrote so long, but this is just a chip of the ice berg.
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reader, Spades  +, writes (21 June 2010):
 15 wasn't a fun age for me either. But looking back on it now, it wasn't all my parents' fault. I was moody, unhappy, painfully shy, and felt sheltered from the world.
That anger I often took out on them.
You say you parents don't understand you and never will. Let them try to understand you. Be patient and talk to them. Tell them this is how you're feeling. Maybe you and your parents can come up with a solution, but even talking about it at all will bring you all closer and open that line of communication.
I have to say this definately worked for me. My mother is my closest friend. I tell her everything. And I went through exactly what you're going through.
As for your younger sister..that's just how sisters are I'm afraid. Once you and your sister are older you'll probably be a lot closer and actually enjoy each others company.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2010): I used to feel the same way (I'm 15 too) one of my friends told me that if I wanted my parents to understand me, I had to understand them! so I started trying! and after a while, things got better!! it was hard and we still fight alot but its better! and younger siblings are always annoying! I think its because we have to be together ALL the time but i think itll get better after you stop living together! and dont act on the sex thing because you will regret it... trust me!
Abby
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reader, twinlab99 +, writes (21 June 2010):
 Go read the book "Play to win" by Larry wilson, or something more simpler.....The Secret (but that's too commercialized)....Play to win is a great book about getting out of your comfort zone, facing your fears, and moving on.
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reader, Auntie E +, writes (21 June 2010):
 Your parents are trying to maintain control but not doing a very good job of it I am afraid. You say your parents do not understand you and never will - well the problem is that they forget what it is like to be 15. I remember being 15 so well and feeling the exact same way you are describing. I so hate to sound cliche but you are all hormones with nowhere to go. You say your sex drive is through the roof - that is PERFECTLY NORMAL. And my hunch is that you will meet a girl this summer - 15 being the magical age that it is--and you will find out what it's like to love and be loved. It is all going to be ok. I promise.
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