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writes:Tattoo must go. That's my issue with my wife. My wife never dated much and was a virgin until she met this guy, and even then was while they were dating, however, her parents were a nightmare and she ended up leaving home and moving in with Brandon. Needless to say they them became intimate and lived together for about 2 years.My problem is, she has a tattoo on her VERY lower back. Right above the butt that says 'Brandon, he's the dog'.I've always hated this tattoo, but while we were dating, I felt as though I had no right to say anything about it. Now we're married a few years, have 1 child, and going to have 2 or 3 more. I'm sick of seeing this tattoo on her lower back with another guy's name on it.She is afraid of the pain to get it removed, but I say she went through the pain to get it in the first place, and I suffer emotional pain every time I see that tattoo. It's turning into a really big fight, I'm not going to stay married to someone for 50+ years with another guy's name on her butt. There have already been some uncomfortable situations with being at the pool or the beach and people ask if I am Brandon. When one of us says no, they say 'oh, your son or father?' I'm really sick and tired of it.Am I right to insist on this getting removed?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2010): Tell her that you're going to wear a photo of your ex-GF on your chest the next time she is on top riding you during sex.
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reader, Auntie E +, writes (2 April 2010):
 EbonyBlossom is right on all issues. She needs to get that thing covered up!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2010): Yes, your wife made a mistake getting it, and now she has to pay (discomfort/pain) to get rid of it. It is totally unfair to you and your marriage for her to have another guy's name tattooed on her body. Force the issue, and she doesn't agree, I would leave her, she would then indicate that she obviously doesn't give a damn about your feelings or emotional hurt over this. That would mean the marriage isn't worth anything.
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reader, raiders +, writes (1 April 2010):
 ask her to cover it up with another tattoo IDK maybe a beautiful butterfly, a dragon, something that is special to both of you. If she sat down and took the pain for her tattoo she can can sit down again to get another tattoo to cover it up.
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reader, EbonyBlossom  +, writes (1 April 2010):
 This is a tough one. If I were you, I'd feel exactly the same.
However, tattoo removal can sometimes be more painful that actually getting the tattoo itself (?) because it's done with a laser. It is also very very expensive and can sometimes leave a nasty scar. All three of these things are probably on your wife's mind.
She should at least consider getting the name removed. My mate had laser surgery on a tattoo on his arm and he didn't suffer majorly from it. As long as your wife goes somewhere reliable, she'll be fine. It isn't fair to you.
People shouldn't get tattoos of other people's names unless that person has died.
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