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writes:Hi me and my wife recently broke up. We had been together since we were 16 and up until this past year when we had afew disagreements and just seemed to be very distant. it was quite an emotional goodbye and was very hard. we were fine after that, we did keep in touch just as friends but we didn't get other partners. since we decided to get divorced about 3 months ago its been hell. I really don't wnat to, i know i still love her, she means everything to me but i just don't know how to go about it. It's like back when we were at school and i wanted to tell her i loved her and she wanted to tell me the same. I wasn't to sure about how she felt util afew weeks ago. Her best friend from school who is also one of mine were having a night in once when our daughter had come to mine for the night and to be honest i think got quite drunk. She says that my wife started getting really down and then started crying because she really wnated me back and couldn't bare it anymore. Our friend didn't think anymore of it till the morning when they were both sober and my wife admitted it wasn't because she was drunk that she said it she really ment it and was still quite tearful when she said that. Then last night we were just talking on our own and was watching tv. The next thing i know we were kissing which let to us having sex. We didn't really get much chance to do anything else as my phone rang, it was my borther to say their babysitter was ill so could i look after the kids as they were going to a wedding reception so what would of happened if i'd of stayed i don't know. But what i do know is we both want the same thing we just don't know how to do it. Since then its all i've thought about and don't know what do to. I really want that night again and many many more every night every week every month, you get the picture. What should i do?
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reader, bqagirl2692  +, writes (5 December 2007):
 Well since the both of you still want to be with eachother then there is no reason for the both of you to beat around the bush about it. Let her know how you feel. Tell her, show her that you still want to be with her. Let her know before its too late. Dont be so afraid in doing it. You both have been together for so long and it would be devastating if the both of you let something so beautiful go just because of some silly little arguments that couldve had solutions to them. Dont let your relationship go down the drain. There is still time to get things back on track considering that the both of you still want to be with eachother. You two know eachother better than anyone. You must know how to communicate with eachother. LEt her know how you feel before its too late. Good luck!
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reader, Emajayne  +, writes (5 December 2007):
 I dont really get your question. You both want eachother, you both have slept with eachother since the divorce began...whats the big issue. Tell her exactly how u feel...infact, call her up right now and tell her u lvoe her and dont want to get the divorse, if she still wants to than respect her desision and DONT yell at her. Just...show up where she lives...even ebtter if its raining...and then just tell her u lover her and it hasent changed since the day in highschool where u finally fessed up. and then kiss her...with any luck u'll get ur night and many more.
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