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writes:This is a follow-up to this question (http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-feel-im-never-going-to-get-over.html)My biggest problem I have now is that this girl that I'm in love with is now my friend, but it seems like everything has changed. When we first met she would hold onto me and ask me how I could be so perfect. Now she plays with other guys and is affectionate to them while I'm sitting right next to her. These other guys are my friends and her friends on our hall, they're no strangers. But I'll confront her and tell her it feels like I'm being excluded when I hang out with you but she says there's no problem. And whenever these two guys come knock on her door or show up randomly while I'm around, she'll say their names in affectionate loving ways, while I hardly get a glance, and barely even a hug, which she gives them constantly, and I feel left out and unloved, and I can't take all this shit that she puts me through. I get so insanely jealous over these things because she used to be loving to me, but now I get nothing. How can I make myself special in her eyes again? I feel like she has just lost interest in me and moved on, I want the one she wants to love most, I want to have my name called and given a hug whenever I see her. I don't want her to sound bored when she's with me and ecstatic when others are around. What can I do? What should I do? I need her, because no one else has come along to fill the void in the gap in my heart.
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reader, em1516  +, writes (6 December 2007):
 I'm bumping this as I am i the same situation with my ex. The only thing I can recommend is to act like before you went out, but also show qualities that you lacked/decided your split, so in my case it was confidence. Also if you haven't already, take time out from your ex, I recently did that for 2 weeks and when I came back and have a good chat with my ex we both said we missed each other. Although I think I'm doomed to friend-dom even after everything I have done... that's life...
Best of luck sir.
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