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writes:Disclaimer: I realize that the topic of this question is a bit of a stretch for this site, but my rationale is that it has to do with relationships, in a sense, so it IS applicable. ;)Now, to actually get down to business.To get right to the point, I have always really admired, looked up to, and quite frankly, LOVED just about all of my schoolteachers. Mind you, in an ENTIRELY platonic way--I am not the goofy girl who had a crush on her young male Spanish teacher from Colombia or something crazy like that. It's just that I myself consider myself to be one of those people who is naturally a teacher and I have a great passion for it; having had a lot of experience doing volunteer work in schools and camps as a tutor/teacher/leader/counselor,etc., feel a strong connection to and have an immense degree of respect for my teachers. All that being said, these days I find myself wishing that these feelings could be more mutual. You know how there's always those certain teacher/student pairs--we've all seen them--where they are really, truly FRIENDS? Where they actually have conversations about things OTHER than school, and that teacher is really there for that student, for the most part they see each other as equals, etc...It is such a beautiful thing! But I can't say that that's the case with me and any of my teachers and for some reason I desperately wish it could be. Perhaps it is, as I said, my respect for them and their position, and my subsequent desire to truly know them as PEOPLE; perhaps it is the lack of trustworthy adults in my life who have time for me, I don't really know. I guess what I'm wondering is, am I crazy for wanting them to be anything but strictly professional and distant, as they are "supposed" to be, and has anyone else ever felt this way as well?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (5 May 2011):
 I agree with Eyes that the teacher's job is to teach, not to become friends. So don't be so disappointed. The good news is that you can indeed become friends with teachers AFTER school is all over. Yes, that's true! I have friends who were my teachers 35 years ago! So hang in there, have some patience and allow time to pass, I'd say about 10 years, and you can indeed become a friend of a former teacher.
But for now, just enjoy their teaching and learn what you can without regretting the rest. It'll be okay, I'm sure!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (4 May 2011):
 It really isn't their job to be best Buds with their students, it's to teach the students the subject matter. And that is why you won't find too many teachers who seek a friendship, it can be a distraction in the student's learning process.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2011): I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND YOU!
I am in the same position as you, actually.
But I'm just happy that I got one teacher I'm close with. ^_^ I wish some of them are more friendly.
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reader, WeCanDoIt  +, writes (3 May 2011):
 It's is hard to seek these relationships with teachrs. You would need to find the right teacher and just let it grow naturally. I would also try really hard in that subject once you have found 'the teacher', as this is always helpful, and teachers are less likely to become more friendly with 'slackers'. I think it is lovely that you want this sort of relationship wih your teacher. I also pride myself in the respect for my teacher. I have a relationship, similar to what you are seeking with one of my teachers. However at the moment she is on maternity leave, so that is hard. One thing that I would advice though, is try not to get too attached as that could lead to pain in the future. Good luck though :) Xx
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