A
female
age
36-40,
*rndz4life
writes:hii belong to a conservative family n i m the only child of my parents.my propblem is that my parents are very protective about me.i am a reserved type of girl so i have very few friends but i am losing out on them because i am not allowed to go out for a out of town trip with them, nor am i allowed to talk too much or even sit on bike with a guy even though a friend.i understand their concern for me but i feel trapped as i am being treated as a kid everytym though i am an adult now. i hav become like a laughing sotock within my friends as i cant go out with them,party with them, even go any discs.they keep taunting me neither they understand me nor my parents.i have tried talking to them but in vain.i respect my parents and their concern for me but i just want to have some space ,do things that girls of my age do enjoy my youth with my friends.i really feel helpless and depressed with the situation i am in.can u give me a solution on this plz i need help..thanks
View related questions:
depressed, trapped Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (8 June 2012):
Hi there.
You are an only child.
It could be that before you were born, you parents had a lot of trouble trying to fall pregnant, and then once you were eventually born, they treasure you more than anything.
And they are undoubtedly scared of losing you, as a result of this.
And so they want to protect you, at all costs.
Unfortunately, what your parents don't seem to realize, is that one day they MIGHT lose you, because you just decide to leave home and find a place of your own.
It could get to a point for you, where you decide for yourself that you can no longer tolerate being suffocated.
You are over 21 years of age, so you are well and truly an adult and are quite capable of making your own decisions about your life.
You now have to decide what it is that you do want for yourself.
Are you working and earning an income?
If so, well then you probably can afford to find a small apartment for yourself, to rent.
Or perhaps you could look in your local newspaper for an apartment you could share with another girl.
And this would cut the price of renting in half, and make it much more affordable.
It does sound like it's time for you to move out, because you are being completely restrained by your parents, and you can't do anything!
You are clearly not happy with this situation, which is all the more reason to seriously consider moving out.
And realistically, your parents CAN'T stop you from doing this.
It's your life - NOT theirs!
Even if they threaten to not speak to you ever again, which probably wouldn't happen anyway, you still need to go, and let them see you know your own mind and what you want from life.
You are entitled to happiness, just like everyone else.
And your parents have no legal right to stop you living the life you were meant to live.
Staying in the environment you are currently in, is only holding you back from reaching your full potential.
You are NOT happy, and you deserve to be happy.
|
