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*onsoonmirage
writes:Hi!I have been married for the past 6 months to a divorcee with one kid. I knew my husband while he was going thru his divorce. I have this feeling that he thinks of his ex while he is in bed with me, and he still harbours feelings for his ex. He does not admit it to me but i know the above for a fact (have found this out). I want him to stop thinking about her and to be convinced he has- please advice
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (3 July 2007):
 Why sit there and watch the fire ignite when you know exactly how you can put it out???
Eve
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reader, Monsoonmirage +, writes (3 July 2007):
Monsoonmirage is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNope i did not tell him... am waiting to see if it ever happens again.......... and thanks for all your answers.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (2 July 2007):
Did you eventually tell him it wasn't his ex but in fact his WIFE? If so what did he say about it? You need to sit down and have a serious chat with your husband. You need to tell him how he really hurt you jumping to the conclusion it was his ex and more so "wanting her". What the hell was he thinking writing something like that??? Before that happened, how was your marriage? Are you both still intimate on a regular basis? Do you still communicate regularly? Do you still go out together socialising together?
If you haven't already told him then you NEED to tell him it was you texting him that night. Tell him you were so gobsmacked when he text what he did, it made you think he didn't want you any more, he preferred his ex and also has led you to thinking what would happen if he WERE to bump into her one night? Could you trust him? See what explanation he gives you and tell him you only text him because you were missing him. Let me know how it goes okay?
Eve
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reader, Monsoonmirage +, writes (2 July 2007):
Monsoonmirage is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the answers. I know for a fact becoz for fun i had sent him a 'Hi! How are you?' message from my friends handphone and after 2-3 replies he answered saying for a fact he knew it was her (he wrote in the name he used to call her) and he too wanted her and it had been a long time----
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reader, Ask_HanBan +, writes (29 June 2007):
 y on earth did u marry a guy who's mind was on someone else? u should of sorted this out b5 u wed!
u cant force him to stop thinking about her but try talk to him make him jelous by thinking of an ex! (this idea could so back fire ie. the unthinkable happens and he suggests u double date!
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reader, AskEve +, writes (29 June 2007):
First of all, this is something that should have been sorted out BEFORE you both got married. What makes you think he thinks of his ex while he's in bed with you? Has he called out her name???
You say you know fora FACT he still harbours feelings for his ex. How do you know this? How long were you together before you got married? How old are you both? Get back to me with the answers to my questions and we'll talke some more okay?
Eve
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reader, Emma Jayne +, writes (29 June 2007):
 You say you know this for a fact if its hearsay honey don't class that as fact even the closest mates can be cruel.If you really like this guy and he solemnly swears he's not thinking of his ex don't be the one to wreck something because you feel insecure. Ther are a few things that bother me like have you been in a relationship before and been cheated on this could be one of the reasons that you feel this way, you have to think this could be the one and is it worth ruining because you have niggles if you do break up your forever going to be thinking what if.You need to remember everyone has a past but this is YOUR beginning and its worth making a go of at the end of the day he is with you if he wanted to be with his ex why isnt he? ( Because he wants you). Good luck honey be strong .
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