A
female
age
41-50,
*ixieGwen
writes:I'm wondering whats up.My ex and I hung out. Everything was super good - no awkwardness, we laughed alot/flirted and yet nothing came of it.I thought atleast friends..but I havent heard from him much.Then I thought maybe he just wanted to fool around...cos we flirted n what not. I basically let him know I was interested in being intimate and he said that it sounded good but I havent heard from him.I thought I knew him and it seems after we broke up he went from being a really good guy/seeming together to falling apart more ways that one.When I last saw him he said he was gonna file for bankruptcy, hes tired of dating and the dating process but is lonely (didnt use that word but described it in other ways), among other things.Maybe hes depressed.. all I know is that I want him in my life, I want him to be happy but i didnt know where to go w/ this one. I was open to anything w/ him.I just enjoy his company.What do I do? I guess I could do nothing..but thats not my style.
View related questions:
bankrupt, broke up, depressed, flirt, my ex Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, PixieGwen +, writes (26 January 2010):
PixieGwen is verified as being by the original poster of the question that makes sense..:)
however,
i wasnt planning on getting into a relationship w/ him. im dating other people..and wasnt depending on him to get with me. by wanting him in my life - i just want to hang with him.i was open to other things besides bein friends..but ultimately it was "friends" i was after.
i just want us to hang..but it seems after seeming happy to see me etc..hes been distancing himself.and it got me confused..cos i thought we had a really good time catching up.i thought we were on friend terms but it looks like im back at square one.
A
male
reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (26 January 2010):
Be very careful. Though you want him in your life, you're walking into a huge mess. If his life is a mess currently, then this relationship won't go anywhere, because he'll de depressed and not put effort in, then you'll end up resenting it, then you'll break up. Though you want him in your life, at this time he's just not the guy you need. He has to sort his own problems and become happy for himself before he can be a good boyfriend or be in a good relationship. Don't bring him back into your life and try to change him or help him, because it just won't work. At this time, the best thing you can do is not make contact, and just try to move on.
...............................
A
female
reader, PixieGwen +, writes (26 January 2010):
PixieGwen is verified as being by the original poster of the questionif i were to do that ..im afraid he'll just try to argue w/ me if i tell him how im feeling. he seems to take alot of stuff i say negatively even though none of it is negative.I'm not sure why but hes been like this since we broke up.He broke up w/ me & He came back into my life, not the other way around.
...............................
A
male
reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (26 January 2010):
 Drive over to his place knock on the door when he answers the door tell him everything you just posted in here, thats the only way youll get an answer for this problem but im sure you dont have the intestinal fortitude to do that
...............................
|
