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writes:dear cupid,ive fallen for my ex again, and i don't know what to do.. we always tend to go back to eachother but its always at the wrong times. i've stayed single since we broke up, but ive fooled around wiht a couple guys, and now i realize i want to be back with him. He came to that conclusion earlier this year, but i was busy fooling around to try and get back with him. (he straight up told me he wanted to get back together and i said i wasnt ready) and now im ready but i dont think hes ready anymore.. how should i approach this, without making it really obvious that i want him back?
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reader, i might be a girl but i can help  +, writes (20 June 2007):
 well if u really do want to get back with him and u r ready to try again than just get to know eachother as friends first don't rush into things as its not fair on both of u, coz u might think u r ready but when u get into the relationshp again u might just reget it. i don't think u r both ready yet and im guessin u r still young and its hard to get over the exs especially if u have been through a lot
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2007): Oh, what fun!
The best thing to do is the be honest and upfront with him about it. Lets face it, you have nothing to lose and it you want the relationship to work out in the long run you have to have the communication thing down pat.
Talk to him about it. Communicate. You might be pleasantly surprised and its better than wondering 'what if' for the rest of your life.
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reader, donnab +, writes (20 June 2007):
hi
i think you should try to get closer by being friends then you will be able to work out if your ex really wants you back. He may just be acting to seem like he is not ready as you said you wasnt,and he dosent want to get hurt. His male pride could be taking over as he opened his feelings about you once and will probably be a bit more cautious. Thats why id suggest you get close to him again as friends and take it slow so he can trust and believe that you are now ready, then if he feels the same way you will know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2007): I'd be curious to know your age. It sounds like you and your boyfriend haven't gotten the need to date others out of your systems. I don't think you're really ready to settle down and until you are this back-and-forth routine will go on and on. When you really fall in love you'll lose all interest in others. Maybe the two of you should take a break, date others, and see how you feel say in six months. Dating other men just to make him jealous or make him notice you isn't the best basis for anything long-term. True love can wait for however long it takes. If it proves that it doesn't work out you'll be grateful. Sometimes playing at love can be much more fun and exciting then settling into a long-term committed relationship. Obviously you're attracted to each other but something keeps the both of you from making a commitment. Sounds like you're just not ready.
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