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*jord1
writes:I would have been with my boyfriend for four years, this June, except we broke up at the end of March. We were great together and were close with each other's families. He is someone I can say I truly love and am not sure I will ever get over. About a year and a half ago, we faced some problems in the relationship - there was some minor cheating [ that others laugh at, because it apparently wasn't much of anything - but not the point ], and we broke up for two months. I eventually tried to get him back, even though I was the one who hurted him, and he took me back because he missed our relationship and me. He was still hurt, did not trust me, and was not willing to admit he loved me. We spent the following months in a rocky path, where we fought over silly things. In March we eventually broke up because of a silly fight - but in reality, it was him sick of fighting. He cared about me still, possibly loved me still, but we were getting frustrated with the fighting. I was not happy with breaking up, and tried to be 'friends' with him shortly after, which included hooking up. About a month into it, he broke it off again and told me he wanted me to give him space - that he thought we could be friends, but apparently not. I left him alone for two months and went back to our hometown, while he stayed in our college town. I did not speak or see him. In June, I called him to see how he was and make sure he was okay. He was happy to talk to me and rambled on about his life. He told me he was visiting home soon and would let me know when. He also mentioned that he was really happy that we were able to talk.Two weeks after that phone call (last weekend), he ended up visiting and I did not find out until after he left. He never told me. I tried to contact him about it but he refused my phone calls, texting me back and saying he didn't want to talk.I gave him a few days space, and tried contacting him earlier. He responded again with not wanting to talk to me.I honestly don't know what to do, or what is going on in his head. I would do anything to sort things out and be back together again, but I am not sure where to start. I can see a future with him, even though at the moment, he cannot.Please help.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (25 June 2010):
It's over. You may see a future, but he has made it more than clear that this is over. You're not facing the reality here. He ended it because of problems, then you got back together, and then he ended it again. He's stopped all contact with you, and even after saying he may come back, he didn't. He has made it clear that he has moved on, and you're not reading the signs. Whatever happened, he has been hurt and it's over now. He has moved on, and you need to as well. If you don't, you risk losing your reputation, damaging your own esteem and respect and losing dignity in front of everyone, whilst becoming an obsessed ex. I'm afraid you need to move on. He has made it clear there is no future for you.
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