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writes:Have you ever felt deeply regretful of a decision you made in the past? For example, you get rid of A, thinking that B is better and you can gain it. However, after you leave A, you fail to get B too. And now you miss your good times in A and wish that you had stayed there instead... In this situation, A and B are schools and I am the one that have made a huge mistake.... What can I do now? Trying to go back to A, which is really hard and costly, or decide on B anyway, which is also expensive but a little less than A.... Sorry for taking much of your time reading this bunch of crap about me... And thank you if you can give me any idea or advice.... Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (25 June 2010):
 Many times we just need time to adjust to the new situation, and the regrets that overwhelm us are temporary and caused by uncertainty. When you become confident, and remember your reasons for making the decision you did, you will relax more and see the good things in your choice and why you chose what you did.
Your new school might not be as great as the first. But you knew before you left A that things would be different at B. You would have probably wondered and regretted it if you didn't decide to try out B. You didn't want to spend as much money on A... You thought about this before you made your decision. Now what has changed? You got it the way you wanted, the best to do now is stick to it. At least give it the time it needs to grow on you. It is not always easy to fit into a new place, but usually that changes within not too long.
However, if you are truly miserable, can not see any good in your current choice, try to get back to A and where you were before. Follow what your heart tells you. It may cost more, but it could be worth it.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (25 June 2010):
I screwed up. I really wanted to do one thing and ended up doing something else. Now that 'something else' has landed me in trouble, as my company is going broke because of the recession. But I'm drawing up plans to go back to what I originally wanted to do. If you want to do A, then go and do A. Yes, it will be costly, but later on in life it will pay off and make you happier.
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reader, loner  +, writes (25 June 2010):
 Hi... You got to dig a little deeper.. What does your heart say? Someone can't tell you what to do.. Life has no manual but you can make your life work... Xxx
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