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writes: Dear Cupid,I have been in a long term relationship for about 5 years now and me and my ex have broke up 3 weeks ago I have tried to be back with him I have wrote him 3 times and even called him but he doesn't answer my phone calls and I never hear from him but just last week I saw him passing by my house he lives far from me and my neighborhood is noware near his so does that mean he still cares for me? We broke up because of him. After being together for 5 do ya'll think he still thinks of me. Do you think I should still try to get in contact or just wait for him to call. I don't want it to be to late for us I really love him and miss him alot but I don't want to come off as needy or desperate. I have talked to other people they say he is doing his business and he knows I'll take him back whenever he is ready to come back because that is what I normally do and they say to stop chasing him and when he calls don't answer what should I do I really want to be with him but I never him from him should I keep trying please help I want the love of my life back.
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reader, Mami22  +, writes (22 June 2009):
 Hi, I am going through a similar situation here.. and I am curious as to know what happened in the past 2 months. Did he contact you? Did you guys talk??
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2009): Hi, Going through a similiar situation too and I know it can be hard. :( The best advice I received, and it seems to be working, is to just stop communicating with him. In your case also, let his and your friends see that you're willing to move on. If he knows that he can have you back anytime that he's ready...then he's playing a sick game and you're his pawn. You deserve to be treated with respect and honesty, don't settle for less.http://www.getexbacknow.com/relationship-answers/
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reader, larusso  +, writes (7 December 2008):
I went(still going maybe) through a similar thing but mine wasn't as long as yours. But mine included a marriage proposal from him and then he decided to back off. Anyways he didn't answer my calls either. But me being stubborn he did and he said "he wanted me to move on that's why he didn't want to talk to me" Seriously delete his number. Stop calling or texting or writing. Just stop communicating with him. Think about what you want. He left you without hesitation after 5!! years. Who guarantees that he won't do it again?? I don't know your situation but i'm sure it's much harder but you know people get divorces after sooo many years. At least it's not that bad. And you're young, healthy and there is so much you can do to even improve yourself now. Love something else. Pick up new hobbies. Meet new people...
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): I know how you feel as my boyfriend broke up with me a week ago after 4 years. I know it'll be hard but you really need to give him space. STOP calling him, it will piss him off, he's not answering for a reason! Do not contact him for a week or two. You never know, he may miss the attention. What you could do, after 2 weeks of not contacting him, say you want to meet him so you can give something back to him.
Have a make over - get your hair done, buy a new outfit and look stunning. When you see him, maybe he'll realise what he's missing. But I really strongly suggest you stop calling him and writing to him. It will be hard, but when you want to talk to him, call a friend instead.
I really hope all works out for you honey!
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reader, Spl-ash  +, writes (13 June 2007):
 Hi know how you feel, this probably won't help but i truly do as am going through something similar atm.... it is hard..
take care
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reader, bumbelina +, writes (12 June 2007):
The best thing for you to do at the moment is the hardest one, and that is to stop chasing him! Beleive me I know how hard this is, but the sooner you do this, the sooner you will start to get your life back. It could be that he needs some space and by you calling him or writing to him, you are just going to puh him further away. Delete his number from your phone, put away all the stuff that reminds you of him and start doing all the things that you said you would love to do but never had time for. Not only will you start to feel more in control, but you might realise that he wasn't who you thought he was and that maybe, just maybe you are better off not being with him. It takes time and is painful but please give yourself some dignity and don't call him anymore.
GOOD LUCK xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2007): I don't know what your ages are, but I am guessing you both are in your 20's. Five years is really long enough to become comitted to each other, as in getting an engagement ring....I think this relationship may have run it's course, and from what your friends are saying, it sounds like your ex is a user, he does not have to behave his way back into your heart, life, bed, he just has to show up or call. If a guy I had been dating for 5 long years broke it off with me, he would not be allowed back in my life without a commitment of marriage....it is possible to break up with the love of your life, and get back together again, but you won't know it if you don't state your needs, tell him that you want and deserve to get married to him, and that you understand if he is not ready, but you will have to go on with your life, that ought to put his hair on fire and make his heart take notice...and then don't hold your breath, actually do get on with your life, and if he comes back, then you are in a place of confidence and can decide whether or not you will let him back in, he needs to behave his way back in, don't pay attention to only his words, if he does not back it up with action then it is the same old tune....he has strung you along for 5 years, and you don't need 5 more.....just my opinion.
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