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writes:Okay I really like my boyfriend I mean mabye even love him and I really want us to hug, hold hands, him put his arm around me, and kiss ya know stuff like that. But the problem is i dont know how to get the piont across to him and he is not the type of boyfriend who usually does stuff like that but i really want to any tips or advice on this like how to get the piont across to him and how to kiss. Any advice will help please please help me!! Reply to this Question
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reader, babydontforget +, writes (23 December 2010):
I think you should some how hint it to him. That's what I did with my boyfriend, I hinted to him about holding hands and such and he was totally fine it with. he told me that if I want to hold hands or something to just tell him. it was sweet! If you try it I hope he has the same reaction :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2008): Toasty might be correct, but I think it is more nervousness, being shy and doing something wrong that gets he or both of you embarrassed.
This holding hands, hugging, is because you need it, right? Why?
If it makes you feel connected, that it makes you feel secure and close, then explain it. Not in the giggly way, or innocent way, but in a mature way. Explain or let him know that your not trying to put him on the spot, that if anything, for him to think about it, and another day you can both talk about it. We all have fears, he may have one here.
I recall slightly when I was this age. I was not shy around girls I liked and who receipicated. Those girls that were shy and silent, I did put my guard up and went very very slowly. If I didn't get a response that I thought was favorable, I didn't ask or do it again until she showed an interest. Some girls I dated, it ended because they made no effort to reach out and discuss it. I'm not perfect, but I understood the importance of letting the other know how one feels. The closer you get, the more you reveal about you and your feelings.
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reader, jinxx  +, writes (30 April 2008):
 Honestly, I think the best thing for you to do in this situation is to make the first move instead of waiting for him. I don't see how you could get your point across more strongly than that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2008): Guys your age are usually not that mature and are still in the 'she'll make me look uncool' 'cooties, ew' and 'i'm scared to death of her' stages.
Soon enough. Don't worry.
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