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writes: I am 21, I have a friend that lives in another country, she’s 21 we met on holiday 2 years ago. I have been to see her and now i have just finished an amazing month doing another holiday with her. We have gotten really close and we mean so much to each other as friends. I have told her about my feelings and how i would love 2 more and i would be willing to do anything to be with her. She hasn’t ruled that out ever cause u never know in life, but the issue is not only the distance but she has a 3 month boyfriend, which meant i couldn’t take things further. She said she really missed him while she was away and they constantly talked all the time. I really miss just being with her and i want what the boyfriend has. I know they don’t have the connection like we do together, i have an amazing friendship but i am scared i will blow it because i want more. I am finding it very hard being away from her now. How can this be made easier? what advice have you got on long distance love?
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (7 May 2006):
 I think the only thing you can do right now is continue with the contact and just be a friend at the moment. Write her poems or letters and tell her how you feel about her if that is not too scarey.
You have nothing to lose right now as it is not like you are going to see one another tomorrow so by expressing your feelings she will understand how deep they go with you.
The new relationship is extremely new and no one can ever tell what will happen.
Being patient and being a friend to her is what matters right now.
Also they say that absence makes the heart grow fonder so now that you are apart at the moment who knows how strong her feelings could become.
Be strong, postive and patient is the only advice I can offer to you right now.
It is sometimes the little things that someone does that matter the most. Tiny little meaningless gifts like a nice book mark or little teddy, anything like that or a photo of yourself so that you are never too far away from her in her thoughts.
I wish you all the luck in the world, but truly time will tell on this.
BFN
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