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anonymous
writes:Me and my girlfriend get along great, except when it comes to sexual things. (I say sexual things instead of just saying sex because were in the "anything but" stage right now). I feel like we barely ever get time alone to be physically intimate, but she seems to sometimes feel like it's always what we do.I think the reason for the different views is partly because when we get nights or days together (like about once a week), I almost always want to incorporate that sort of thing in at some point. But on the other hand, she goes to my school and we spend most breaks together and text and talk every night, and when I do want to do things it really seems like she is almost never in the mood, so I still am left unsatisfied. She is into me, she says she just often isn't in that kind of mood.So I have been making an effort to keep less of our time devoted to sexual talk/activities. But at the same time, I tend to be very horny and I would like to have that kind of time twice a day if I could :P. I often feel like having that time once every one or two weeks just isn't enough for me.I understand that our relationship needs plenty of non-sexual time, and also I understand our conflict of sex drive is not her fault or anything.So two questions:What general advice do you have, other than to make sure she feels we spend time together other than that?And you know ways a girl of 17 could increase her sex drive? I don't mean anything drastic, just any diet tips, facts, or whatever that someone might have. She doesn't have a problem with more of that kind of thing, except she doesn't feel like it.Thanks :)
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reader, bittersweetmemory  +, writes (3 June 2011):
 i'm sorry to say this but in that case it seems to me you two are looking for different things in a relationship..
i'd say try to have a serious talk about this with her one more time...ask her what she exactly wants and tell her what you want and see if you can get to a compromise..i don't think there's much else you could do...
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionactually, we have been dating for a year and a half and are quite close :/
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reader, bittersweetmemory +, writes (2 June 2011):
my tip would pretty much be that she is not ready for that much sexuality in a relationship...
i guess she first needs to have a special emotional bond between the two of you, get to know you till she trusts you a lot...
i know it's pretty hard but try to spend more time with her and do something fun together for a little while..
i'm afraid this will take some time for her to feel like the relationship is not only about that and for her to want things to happen as well..just try to be patient
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2011): A girl of 17 doesn't feel like it? I don't know if there is anything can be done tell u the truth. Sorry
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