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30-35,
*ianne
writes:Hello there , im new to this site and i cam across him because im in need of cupids help.The story goes like this ( short version ) we were a couple for 2 and a half years and 2 weekes ago we had a fight and he said to me that he had enough he can't stand this anylonger he wants some time alone. Ok, let's skip the part where im begging him, crying my heart out,etc etc etc ..we all did that ..We talked today like A LOT and he said the same thing over and over " no relationship, no ..no..bla bla " and after a while of talking he told me that yes, he still loves me ..yes he misses me and it hurts so much because we end up like this ( this is still a mystery for me why is he stuborn to let go of this relationship) and he's jelous of a friend of mine who has a crush on me ..so he still has feelings for me but in the same time he wants to let go..he needs me like a friend now..he told me that he will always leave a "door" open so maybe..just maybe ..we will be togheter someday" and i started to respect that but in the same time i dont want him to lose his feelings..the love feelings.Just a few facts..he's a scorpio and stuborn as hell, and he loves Into the wild movie and I THINK ( actually I KNOW ) that he wants to feel like that dude..leave everything and search his soul..i think he lost his mind a bit..i need some advice..I want him to see me like a true friend ( even though i was the one dumped he acts like he was the one ) and in the same time make him realise that if we were a couple i could do a lot more to help him.
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reader, Original shiraz! +, writes (26 July 2009):
If his minds made up then theres not a lot you can do, if it were the real thing time will make him see whats missing and hell come back to you, im not saying give up your fight but leave it for now, give him time to experiance what he so desperately wants because im doubting its going to be what he really wants. Youve tried the begging and the pleading and its not worked. I think its selfish for him to leave you hanging, balancing almsot stopping your life livin in hope that maybe one day you may be together some day that leads to you believing theres still a chance, if hes serious about his ne wlife and moving on then he should tell you this.
I dont think hes been honest, its like hes used excuses to get out of it, eg the mate who has a crush, this has just twinged his jealous strings a bit and damaged his pride blahh id ask him if you could talk, like grown ups and talk openly and honestly, if hes got respect for you and hes genuine in his feelings then hell agreee to this.
If his behavouir is still the same id turn around and say right then when youve found the new you and realised that its not you let me know.
Dont take blame on his part.
Stand up for what you believe in, thats all hes done.
I really hope you find what you need, best of luck
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