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writes:well i am 16 years old i go clubbing drinking and basically living my life to the full! but my mum doesnt know that i drink or go out in town like every week becasue she hust woudnt let me go so i just thought hang on its my life my chioce!anyway i have liked this boy for ages now he is older than me though. I always see him out and recently he started talking to me :o i was at one of his close mates birthday party and he just walked over and was like " hi you okay?" and i was just shocked becasue i didnt think he knew who i was! but he knew my name and everything! and i have spoken to him before on facebook :)but he is a bit of a jack the lad and he knows basically everyone where i live but i just want him to notice me??how do i do that? xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2010): hi. i couldnt agree with caringuy any more, though i do have to wonder what is going on in your life that has made you want to rebell so strongly. the route you are on is a one way trip to destruction and i cant warn you enough to stay away from guys like that, as much as you may want to believe otherwise all that will come out of it pain.
there are plenty of wonderful lads nearer to ur own age out there, my advice is start taking care of urself, sort out any issues you have and go find one. best regards
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (30 August 2010):
So you're drinking underage, and your attitude is 'my life, my choice'. Worse still, the guy you like is a 'Jack the Lad'.
Bad start, very bad start. Terrible start.
First up, genuinely good guys will be very wary of your attitude to your own life. The drinking is dangerous for a start, simply because good guys aren't interested in drunk girls. They're just not (also you'll wreck your body). Your attitude to your life at the moment is a bit too 'don't care'. So, guys will assume that you won't care about them, or you're up for cheating, or you'll get drunk all the time and all that. Good guys don't like that. At all. They will respect that you want to do your own thing, but not that your own thing is drinking underage. So, to get a decent guy, you need to be very careful about what you do with your life and choices now. A slip up now, and it will follow you.
Which leads me to my next point about this 'Jack the Lad'. Your own attitude to life has led to you to a bad boy. So before you've started, you're setting yourself up to be used by this older guy. Why? This guy WILL use you and hurt you. That's what this type do.
I guess to sum up, I'm saying that at your age, and with what is happening with the economy and such, you need to be on top of your own life. The attitude 'my life, my choice' is a good one if put to good use. If it's not, then you'll end up being used and sat in a council bedsit or something. I'd suggest really looking at your life before continuing destroying your liver, kidneys and going out with a bad boy. Sorry to sound like a boring parent, but I've seen plenty of young women with this attitude, and just a few years later all wondering why good guys won't touch them with a barge pole. You've got to take care of yourself.
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reader, Odds  +, writes (30 August 2010):
 It appears that he has already noticed you. Just say hi and give him a hug next time you see him. Try to be sober; if you're drunk when you meet, he may classify you in his mind as a one-night-stand girl and never call you again.
Be certain that he is not just trying to play you.
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