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writes:I came in contact with a gentleman at a mutual gathering place about 3 years ago. After seeing him there a few times I started to feel this powerful energy from him. He has since moved out of state but every time he returns I get the same energy from him and I still continue to feel his presence for days at a time after he has left.It feels so strongly in my soul that it makes me want to pour out into tears, I’ve been married and in love before but I have never had this feeling from anyone else. Because of my shyness I only speak when he speaks and even though I notice him watching me I never give eye contact, so I am not sure how he feels, but the energy is so unbelievably strong, I would be surprised if he did not feel something too. I finally sent an email let him know that I’ve wanted to talk to him but I had not had the courage to do it. He responded that he was flattered by my message and would like to be friends. How should take this?
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reader, Odds +, writes (30 August 2010):
 Most single guys will be happy to upgrade from friends to a relationship, if she appears interested. For all you know, he's just "playing it cool" and trying not to appear too interested. You will have to overcome your shyness to do that, however.
First, make eye contact! Seriously, if you do nothing else, look at his eyes and smile. Don't worry if you feel embarassed, blushing is cute. Try to talk, and encourage him to talk, too. Most guys have learned by now to let the woman do 70% of the talking, so it may take a while, but you can convince him to talk more with some effort.
Key word here is effort. Nothing worthwhile ever comes without effort.
Additionally, don't be afraid to screw up. Partly, this is because doing the "wrong" thing is completely understandable, even endearing, as long as you don't appear to be a psycho with baby rabies. The other reason is that, really, there's no *one* person out there. If it turns out that he is not interested, many other men out there would make fine lovers or husbands, every bit as good as him; all you have to do is find and pick one. Avoid the scarcity mentality, and try to relax.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (30 August 2010):
Take it as an invitation to be friends. A relationship wihtout friendship is just a ship, with no one on board (emotionally).
You will never know where things can go, if you are shy and let it slip by.
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reader, L?  +, writes (30 August 2010):
 You've made the first step by emailing him, and it sounds like you received a positive response. This situation will now only become what you make it, as of now he says he would like to be friends but him being 'flattered' shows he obviously takes your interest as a compliment. As well as other points you made such as him watching you and approaching to talk to you first, it seems like this situation could go in your favour. Some of us believe in soul mates, others don't, but the fact that you feel so strongy as to refer to him as your potential soul mate clearly means something. All you can do is pursue, become friends as he suggestsv - getting to know eachother better can only help the situation. He may well be your soul mate, but if you don't try you will never know, good luck :) xo
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