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writes:Hi guys, please don't tell me not to bother or there is no point doing this. Because I really want to, so just any advice on how to do this will be helpful! I met this guy about a week ago, he is so very confident in himself and sure that he can get any and every girl. Which honestly, with looks and charm like that he can, but i'd never admit it. He actually told me, he hasn't ever had to try with a girl and that it's easy. When I said "you're so sure you'll have me and that i'll like you", he said "i'm not sure I just know." So i said, "don't be so sure", he responded with "then it's your loss."So now, I want to play him at his own game and get him interested and want to try harder to get me to like him. I want him to feel like for the first time he has met that one girl who is challenging him and that it would be his loss, not mine. I want to do this the right way and It's not out of spite or anything of the sort, it's actually because I do like him. But i know if I don't challenge him and make him feel like it's his loss, then he will think of me like any other girl and not make the effort or will play me. I know you're thinking why not just move on from the guy, or why bother but it's hard to explain.So how can I do this? Guys in particular your advice would be helpful, or in fact anybody who has met someone who they did this or had this done to them?
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reader, bearN  +, writes (3 January 2012):
 Alrite!!! Even I had tried the same thing when i was in college. lol being an emotional girl I fell for the guy. Eventually hurting myself. Hope it doesn't happen to you.
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reader, elise22  +, writes (2 January 2012):
 Like fi the tree said, if you act aloof he may either want you more, or be hurt in his pride and move on. There's really no way to get this guy to like you more than any other girl, other than just to be more interesting than any other girl. If you have that special click, it will happen; if you don't, it won't.
The only tip I have when it comes to playing the game, is watch the movie 'down with love'. Renée Zellweger has the exact same problem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2012): You will end up getting hurt, he wont. He wont worry too much or think anything, he'll just move to the next.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2012): Guy to girl advice:
You can't change how he "feels" about himself, you can't
change how he "feels" about you, you can't change how he "feels" about how he made you "feel," you can't change how he "feels" about how you "feel" about how he made you "feel."
"I want to do this the right way . . . " There is no right way to do the wrong thing.
"So how can I do this?" There is no right way to do the impossible.
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (2 January 2012):
 Playing games gets you nowhere...
He's a player, and always will be, guys who think they're gods gift are no good. I've seen enough of them to know that!
But if you really want to do this, then just act aloof whenever he's around you, reject his advances and hang out with other guys if you must. Always look your best when he's around. Make it seem as though you're not interested and he may just see you as a challenge, or he may think you're just a snotty cow and avoid you completely.
Seems like he's really worth the effort :/
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