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*mberdan94
writes:Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years now and I was a virgin when I met him. We didn't have sex until 9 months into our relationship. But before I lost my virginity to him, we would have oral sex and he would sometimes spend 45 minutes going down on me and he loved it and did it all the time, after we had sex for the first time and he ate me out once he hasn't done it since. We've only ever just had sex or ive gone down on him. I never said anything at all or asked him but one day I asked I he could and he only did it for maybe 5 minutes and then when he stopped he had this look on his face like he'd just drank bad milk or something sour. I got offended and insecure. And he said that the texture was weird and he didn't like it. I asked him how he lasted so long before and loved it and he said that It didn't have this same texture when I was a virgin. That he thinks it was because back then I didn't finish. And told me to imagine going down on him and doing it for the whole one with his finish all over it constantly. I guess it's too slimy for him or something. He didnt tell me what the texture was he just said that that's why he doesn't like mushrooms. Cuz of The texture. So idk what to do. I love it when he goes down on me and I really want to do something to change the taste if my V so maybe that'll make him overlook the texture or is there some way I can fix the texture?? Idk what to do. He doesn't want to hurt my feelings and he said he'll keep going down on me if I wanted him to but I'm not pig to enjoy it if I know that Ed down there not liking it.. I want him to enjoy it too, like he did in the beginning.. Is there anything I can do??
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2013): Is he going down on you before or after you have sex? If it's after, then it's no wonder he doesn't like it now. He should be doing it as part of foreplay, getting you turned on.
If he is doing it before sex,then a visit to your dr may be in order, to make sure you don't have an infection.
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reader, ironman777  +, writes (16 January 2013):
As a man, I love giving oral sex to my girl friend - I sometimes treat her to a long slow build up to the actual oral sex for her and then we cuddle and go to sleep, I dont initiate my own orgasm - I know that there will be times were its all about me in return... for me its mixing love, unselfish giving and sexiness all together and what better way than giving her a good orgasm before bed!!Give your boyfriend time. But if you are feeling unsatisfied you need to communicate it him. Remember there are men out there who are different to your boyfriend.Good luck
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reader, lmao1989  +, writes (16 January 2013):
 If he texture is different perhaps you've got a yeast infection down there because you can get discharge. Perhaps go to the doctors and get checked.Have you noticed any discharge?Maybe that's why it's different now because you've had discharge or somethings irritated your vaginal area perhaps a spray you've used on yourself.Just get to the doctors and find out if there is anything going on and then talk to your boyfriend if he doesn't understand then he isn't the one for you.But I am sure he will.Hope this helps
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (16 January 2013):
 YOu get a boyfriend that truly likes oral sex and not one that does it because you want it.
OR you accept that he wont' do it because he does not want to.
and he did it in the past because he was desperate to get laid...
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (16 January 2013):
 What you're learning, amberdan, is that we guys will say or do JUST ABOUT ANYTHING to get you girls to consent to vaginal intercourse.......
We will do - and, convincingly, feign enjoying - oral... since we "know" that that will lead to your agreeing to either or both, oral sex for us and/or intercourse, at least.....
YOU need to print out this submittal.... and my response to it... and put it in front of "B/F"... and say to him, "Hey, Lover.... I've learned about your REAL agenda, and will only continue to put out for you if you figure out how to be a REAL man, and lover, and make sure that I am being satisfied in our little love-escapades...."
If (and ONLY IF) he responds properly to this, do you keep your "relationship" going. Otherwise, dump him and get a REAL "boyfriend"......
Good luck...
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