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writes:So here's what happened.I'm a 25 year old male. I have a long distance girlfriend who I love dearly. I've never met anyone quite like her, she's amazing, everything I want in a girl and I'm going to marry her when we can be together (we're away from each other due to work and school).Before we were together, I was seeing someone else, and the other night I saw this other person at the club and we caught up and it was all good. I walked her home and she said we should continue the conversation over a beer.Basically what happened is she kept feeding me beers, and then pressured me for sex, and I eventually gave in. I don't even remember I was that drunk.The problem is my girlfriend is moving here very soon and everyone in town knows about what happened.I've never done anything like this, and I feel terrible. I can't sleep, I'm crying (I never cry), and I'm so incredibly scared that this drunken mistake could ruin everything. I've considered quitting my job and moving so that she never has to come to this town so I can move on with my life without the fear of someone telling her.I know people are going to say don't use the alcohol as an excuse, etc etc. I understand, I have to man up and accept it. But I'm so disgusted with myself. I've stopped drinking completely. What should I do? I know it will be worse if she finds out from someone else, but I want to just forget this ever happened!!!
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reader, Catflap1  +, writes (16 November 2010):
Use it as a way of admitting to yoursef how much she means to you. I am sure it won't happen again so I say forgive yourself and make sure she does not find out or tell her at some point. Up to you but some sleeping dogs are best left. What a price to pay - a good man beating himself up! You will never know how lucky many women would feel to know someone with a conscience like yours. Be proud and keep your head up.
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reader, petina1 +, writes (13 November 2010):
 Is there a chance she could find out from someone else? If there is then you have two options, either let your girlfriend know, or make plans to move. What about the next time you have a drink, this could happen again, that would be something else to worry about also.
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reader, hotinlove  +, writes (13 November 2010):
Unfortinatly, mistakes do happen, but you cannot pretend they never existed. Mistakes are a learning opportunity for all involved. I suggest you DO tell your gf before she finds out from someone else, it may not go the exact way you want, but she deserves the truth. Maybe she can forgive you, but she deserves better than dishonesty, let me ask you this...what if she has already done the same? How exactly would you feel? Would you want to hear it from her and make your own decision on what to do, or would you rather you heard it from one of her friends. It sounds like you know it was a mistake and want to fix it...don't be a coward and hide it, she will never forgive you for hideing things
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