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writes: pls help.. we started a relationship that lasted 3 weeks. he just changed and became distant, he doen't text me anymore and ignores me all the time. we are together every day, because we do the same sport. i want him back, he flirts with other girls in front of me and will make hurtful remarks. some days he is just friendly. i sometimes feel like i want to hurt him like he hurt me. i don't just want to ignore him either. he knows how i feel, he said he loved me, so what has changed. i am tired of being polite to him all the time.how do i get him interested again?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2008): I feel the same way about my old John. He is super hot, way fun and the most popular guy. But he is a player, bottom line. And it sucks because he is just the 'Big Man on Campus', and who wouldn't want to be with him. Let him be bragging rights like you are to him. We got him, so we did win. And in the end, they'll flirt with the next girl and the next, but all the others will have what WE have already had. My guy and this stupid girl from work we saying how attractive each other looked right in front of me, and I got mad, said a stupid remark 'And you wonder why people are talking'! And I am so glad I did because it gave me power. I am not afraid to stand up for myself. I was steaming mad for the next few hours, but the next day, I saw him, but didn't see him the way I did before. He will always be cute, but not!
I know that it sucks because you see him everyday. But chalk it up for what it was, more to you and less to him, and you'll be so much happier.
True, guys aren't a dime a dozen, but if you don't stop looking at him, how are you going to see anyone else?
Good luck,
XOXO
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2006): forget about him. if he flirts with other people it can mean two things he wants to make u jealous or it' over. does he look at u while flirting with other oeple if so he wants u back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2006): This guy is bad news, not only has he lied to you but he's trying to rub your nose in it. I've come across a few guys like this, they tell you they love you just to get what they want. Even when they are with you they are trying to hit on the next girl. I was in a relationship with a guy for 3yrs he was always texting,phoning and flirting with other girls, when I got upset he used to say things like, you're jealous aren't you? or you're really possessive. He made me feel like there was something wrong with me, so he could have his cake and eat it!!! Forget him, if he really loved you he would NEVER want to hurt your feelings. Save your love and emotion for a man who cares about your wellbeing and not waste it on a guy with a warped ego!!!
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reader, Smiler +, writes (27 June 2006):
 Hey Sweetie
Don't be so sad and angry :o( i feel for you right now honey i really do but this really isn't healthy for you babe you shouldn't be dependant and want someones interest in order to cope, to love him is fair enough and totally understandable but don't let him think he's the only thing that's keeping you going cause he will use that to his advantage...as he is doing by flirting with other girls in front of you, and the fact that you WANT him to like you... sure i can understand that we have all wanted our man to just want us at one time in another but this coupled with the dependency thing worries me slightly, babe you are probably just feeling a little low at the minute and Ur self esteem is probably on low ebb that's the only reason your feeling like this, i wish i could just give you a big hug and say hey this is gonna be ok.. you are strong you can sort this out if you love this guy as much as you say you do have a heart to heart with him explain its really upsetting you so you need to know where you stand if your man loves you as much as you love him he'll respect your honesty and value your feelings an help u sort this out but if not and he's just messing with your head he needs sacking treat him like an employee failing to do the job right and sack him :o) you are strong enough to do this you can cope....
I hope my advice was of help to you in this situation :o) and good luck with it. If you ever need a friendly chat of shoulder to cry on or just more advice I'm always here for you
You Take Care X
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reader, Dr. Reality Check  +, writes (27 June 2006):
 I think this is a good lesson not to invest so much or expect so much of a relationship in its infancy. You say you're hurt, and you have a right to be, but this should have taught you another useful lesson...you cant truly fall in love in a few weeks, and his words were clearly empty, as he didnt follow up his supposed 'love' with any real emotional investment. I think the bottom line is that you dated for a few weeks, and it wasnt working out for him the way he wanted. Sorry to say, but I think its unlikely for him to come back to you. Move on, and find someone who when they say they love you will mean it. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2006): It sounds like he's doing this to get you angry and to be jealous - like he's on a power trip. You need to show him that it doesn't bother you. And by all means, if you want to flirt with some other guy, then you should (especially if he does with other girls in front of you). Who knows - flirting with someone else may land you in a better relationship with someone who actually values your feelings more than this creep does.
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