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writes: I am 36 years old and have allways found it difficult to strike up relationships with girls until I met my girlfirend, who I was devoted to for 8 years. She has now left me for another man. I believe she was having a text message affair with him. I cannot rule out they may have been sleeping together but I doubt it. She says she still loves me but not enough to stay. I have been single for 4 months now and I cannot get her out of my mind, I feel as if I should be moving on now, and looking for a another girlfriend but to do this I feel like I would be cheating on my ex girlfriend - stupid really as she dumped me! How long does it take to get over these breakup's as I just think it will go on forever? I am constantly reminded of her wherever I look and doubt I will ever get over her. Any advice would help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2006): I was once in this relationship but the only difference is that i had faith in myself and always said, "if he loved me, he wouldn't of done that." You will always be reminded about the good times that youve both shared and also the bad, but remember...life is the way it is and it is done for a reason. This reason may always remain anonynous but maybe later in life you'll realise that this relationship has given you strength and self-confidence.
She cheated on you and believe me it takes time!! My ex and i were going out for about 2 and a half years and since we broke up which was about 3 and a half years ago...i still haven't met anyone. Yes, ive had the occassional fling and ive also dated others but they've never worked out. But, being in the relationship with my ex gave me confidence and helped me to never give up!
remember that she left you for another...and what goes around comes around. Soon, she'll be at your door step begging for you to take her back and you'll be happy with your new current life. but, all of this takes time! Remember that you are much more better than her and you deserve better.
You'll find the 'right' someone but for now, lift your head up...think to yourself that you are 'simply the best' because life is too short to be waisted on someone who doesnt treat you fair and truthfully! Respect yourself because you deserve more and youll be treated equally the same!!!
best of luck, take care xo
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reader, Hot (Advice) +, writes (27 June 2006):
 Oh darlin, I hope you have some real good friends you can hang out with right now. It sounds like you are heartbroken. Of course you are still feeling the fresh pain and upset of the break up, you have invested 8 years of your time into the relationship and are feeling vunerable at present.
Allow yourself time to grieve - it is a grieving process and takes each person a different length of time to get over something like this. Do your best to keep your head held high. She wasn't the one for you and maybe her going off with someone else has saved you from further years of mistrust and betrayal. You wouldn't want to be going back to a reltionship where the trust was broken, you would be putting yourself in a place to get hurt again and the next time it would hurt 10 times more then it does now.
Get rid of any reminders of her, pics, gifts etc that she's given you over the years. Think of the good times you have shared, find it in your heart to forgive and forget and move on without her. Look forward to enjoying some time out on your own. This is going to sound corny but you will get over her, but in YOUR timing, don't beat yourself up over how long it should take. Take care honey, hope all works out for you. xx
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