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51-59,
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writes: I text my male friend to get out of my life and get his stuff, as I am not able to call him and he has been very selfish and treating me like a door mat.I had no other lover, the last week and he just has been so selfish, I became fed up. My goal was for him to take me seriously and see what he can truly do to approach our relationship differently. I know text is not the way, but he was out of reach and no neither of us are married to another.I love him and I am good to him and he knows it. I am not sure what he will do today or if he is just going to take my words and run or if he will do something that is real to change my choice.I feel so empty knowing it maybe really be over, but the only thing I have to lose is his not great ways with me, and no one wants that....I want him in my life, but not like this; He told me relief for him would be if he had told me he does not want to see me anymore, but he has not done that.....and we meet today.....for him to pick up his few items at my home....what do i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question ending it depends on how you two tango. Whatever you do do not let the door mat issue continue and if there are any changes they should meet your requirements.
for sure do not get even, or try to play games. I really think you should see if he does anything at all, and you can keep "okay it is still on in verbal agreement" and keep the its over in your mind.
basically, you just do what you feel and if he is not doing what is right, you just move on and have no need to tell him anything at all. He is not stupid, he knows what he does and thinks you will never leave. You know you can leave when your ready and not tell him anything.
Good luck and may god show you so you do not have to try and figure it out
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (3 January 2010):
End it. You may love him, but you're playing door mat and second best to this man. Never do that.
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