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writes:My ex and I broke up a month ago, which I know is not a long time to let it heal, but the problem is that I don't want to move on and get over him - I want him back! When we broke up he told me it was because he needed time and space to sort out his head, which I understand because I'd been trying to get him to do that the whole time we were together! We talked a week later and he'd changed his tune, saying that he thought I was too young, and since I was moving to University in September he couldn't see this relationship going anywhere. This is NOT a valid reason as I will only be max an hour away and there had been plenty of times in the past where we'd talked about it and I'd been more worried than him. Since then I keep seeing him everywhere I go, and keep getting dragged back into this mess, and everytime it sets me back two paces. I don't want to let him go because I have never felt this way about anyone else before, and we had an amazing relationship for the most part. As far as I was aware he never wanted for anything but now he is pushing me away because I got too close to his problems. I guess I'm asking if you think I have a chance of making things work with him. When we talked face to face he told me that he didn't love me anymore but then cried when I told him that I thought he was an amazing person. He told me that he had moved on and thought that I was trying to hold him back, but got ridiculously angry when he saw me sitting on a guy friend's lap when he walked into the pub last Friday. I would do anything to have him back, and I miss him like crazy, but I'm so unsure as to what to do next.
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reader, lexilou +, writes (29 April 2008):
 I think you have to just give him this space and see what happens. He will feel jealous if he sees you with another man for a while thats normal. He could just feel that you are going to grow apart anyway so wants to end it now. Time will tell and if you keep pestering him it will only turn him against you. Set a realistic time in your head as to when you think he has long enough to come to his senses or else you will end up waiting for ever, but when that point is reached cut your losses so you can enjoy this new phase of your life. I hope you work this out x
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reader, :):):) +, writes (29 April 2008):
Hi sorry to hear your going through a hard time. It sounds to me like he feels you will grow apart once you go to university, not just because of the distance but because you'll be socialising with different people and generally living a different life.Give it some time and distance and you'll both know for sure whether this is worth holding on to or not.xxxxx
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