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writes: I need peoples opinions on this. I come from a very old fashioned family and all, I'm a married woman with kids who is fairly young and I've been wanting to get a tatoo or even getting my nose peirced...my husband agrees with it and says that we should do that together cause he's been wanting to get another tattoo, but I've got family, parents to be exact, that say that it doesnt look right for a married woman with kids or a family woman having such thing on my body. They say that whores, or single woman have those kinds of things done to them and that I would look like a whore and not a wife or mother. I've always wanted to do that ever since I was a teenager, but never did cause I didnt have the guts because of the pain associated with getting peirced and a tattoo. I dont know what the big deal is. I want a tattoo that is small and cute, it isnt like im going to get a huge one or one that is of something bad! I want to get my nose peirced and I want my tattoo to be placed either on my ankle or shoulder blade. I guess my question is, what do you think, do you think that it looks wrong for a married woman with kids to have a tattoo and a peirced nose?
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (25 June 2006):
 Be careful what body part you have pierced, and be sure that you keep the area really clean to avoid infections.
I'm 44 and have two largish tattoos (my mum flipped, but I was 25 when I got the first one). The pain isn't so bad, though it tends to be worse on body areas where the bone is close to the skin, and when you get outlines done. Areas of colour are more like the feeling of rough sandpaper on your skin -- unpleasant, but you can deal with it.
As to your parents, well, you're an adult now, and have the support of your husband, so why not do it if it pleases you? Forget all the stereotypes - you're unique, and your design should reflect your personality.
Just two caveats, from someone who's been there: First, make sure that it's not something that will date too quickly! Nothing worse than having to look at Michael Jackson's visage for the next 60 years!
Second, be sure it doesn't show when you're dressed for work. That way even your mum can't accuse you of looking like a "hoor".
Enjoy.
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (24 June 2006):
 Well I am married have various bits pierced and several tattoos/ My choice, my life my body.
go for it if you want to do it.
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reader, carebear +, writes (24 June 2006):
 dear anon
i have a small tattoo at the top of my arm it's a scorpio my star sign now i have had this for about 20yrs i am now 41 i don't know about the body peircing prob personal choice but if you and hubby are happy about it who cares its not a bad thing the only thing i would say is tattoo is not sre were i got it but on your ankle theres bone there and that can be quite sore and you ahve to apply cream to keep it moist as it can dry up and crack and that can also be quite sore depend on where you have it so go on be daring you only live ounce
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2006): Well, my family isn't for the tattoo/pierced thing since my bro and I are guys in a Chinese originating family. However, it really comes down to me. If I want it, sure, I'll do it. I don't care what other's say. Of course, aside from wanting to do it, Dr. Psyche's medical notes are also stuff to think about as well.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (24 June 2006):
 Getting body piercing or a tattoo has nothing to do with being married...I suppose it is one of those silly stereotypes! My Dad flipped when he saw my piercing though so I guess that is parents for you :-)
However, you still need to give it some thought - when you are older and your skin is getting a bit saggy (it happens to the best of us!) then you might not like a hole in your nose so much. I suppose you can have a cosmetic procedure in the future if you want to cover it up. But you won't be able to cover it up like a tattoo. Another consideration is your health - if you go ahead make sure you check out the hygiene at the clinic. I write from painful experience - I had a tummy piercing at 26 and...to cut a long story short...ended up on stupid amounts of antibiotics because I got a blood infection from the piercing - it put me off body art for life. I am not saying don't do it, but just be careful!
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