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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have been thinking about the relationship I have with my boyfriend of 4 yrs lately. We have not been intimate in a while and I thought it was me. I thought that I just didn't want to have sex (we used to all the time). I have met another man that makes me want to have sex all the time (I have not had sex with him but he keeps talking about it and it is hard for me to not jump his bones). I think that I want a dominate male in the bedroom and I have tried with my boyfriend but it just isn't working. I do control him, it is part of personality so I think that is why I want a dominate male in the bedroom. This new man is also relatively inexperienced and I feel like I can mold him into what I am looking for. But the men I know like women to take charge and I am tired doing it every time. I want to be submissive for once. What should I tell my boyfriend? It is really upsetting that I don't want to have sex with him. Should I think about a relationship with this other man? We know each other very well and we are very open. He does want a relationship but I just don't know what to do. My life is so intertwined with my boyfriend, I can't just walk away. We rented a home together (10 more months until the lease ends), we have combined our money to buy everything, and we have two dogs. It's not easy to leave but I am unhappy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2012):
I think this is not a hard problem to solve.
For one thing, stay away from the other man. He is a distraction.
What you need to do as a woman, if you want to be dominated, is to be submissive. Many men are taught to respect women and dominating you just seems wrong. So control the action yourself. Say things like: "Mmmmmmm, baby, I get so hot when you do xyz." Make it seems like you will be disappointed if he doesn't do xyz. Most men will be eager to please.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (15 July 2012):
 I know what you mean because that is always my problem too! One thing I do to get my boyfriend to be a little more domineering is that I email him and tell him what I want him to do. Then, if he wants me, he knows what I want and takes more control than normal. It may not be the throw-you-down-on-the-bed and ravage-your-body type domination, but it might be a good start!
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